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6 Things Not to Say to a Mom With 'Lots' of Kids

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6 annoying things people say to big families

I wish I could say I was surprised at the stupid things people say to parents, but I'm not. Since having my first child almost 9 years ago, I've learned that parenting is something that everyone, even people who don't have kids, have an opinion about.

Whatever happened to "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all"?

The comments I thought were bad when I had one kid are about 400 times worse now that I have four kids. But today, instead of smiling and laughing like I usually do since I usually have my kids with me when I hear this crap, I'm going to share the craziest things people have said to me and what I'd love to tell them. Or where to shove it.

  1. You do know where babies come from, right? You know, it's funny you mention that because I was just asking myself the other day "Where do babies come from?" and then my vagina piped up and reminded me of the combined 30 hours of labor and all those stitches.
  2. Wow, you really have your hands full! Are you kidding? This is a spa vacation. See, I actually have about 20 more children at home but I keep them all locked in a closet and rotate out the good ones.
  3. You must have a lot of sex. Well, don't tell anyone, but I actually bought these kids on the black market. But yes, I have sex. A lot. Probably a lot more than you do, especially if you say stupid crap like that all the time. 
  4. You are my hero. Oh gosh, thank you. My vagina is blushing.
  5. I'm so glad I stopped at two kids. If you think it's okay to say something like that in public to a mom, in front of her children, I'm really glad you stopped too.
  6. You must like torture. Wait a second. This is so bizarre. Have you been looking into my bedroom?

See also:

8 Things Never to Say to a Mom of an Only Child

5 Things Never to Say to an Adoptive Parent

8 Things Never to Say to Moms of Multiples

5 Things Never to Say to Lesbian Moms

20 Things You Should Never Say to a Pregnant Woman

5 Things Not to Say to Divorced Moms


Moms of 3 or more kids, what comments drive you crazy?


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jenjl... jenjluginbuhl

I have 4 kids and the one I hate is "I don't envy you". What do you think you are accomplishing by insulting me and my kids? They are well behaved and polite. Do people think they are being cute or something?

Carla Bailey

Wow, some people are just rude. I am 31 yrs old but look very young u would be surprised over some of the comments I get now that Im pregnant again, Lots of people think Im a pregnant teen and make hateful comments to my face.

tel4him tel4him

I have 3 , which is not a big family to me, and I get comments, too.  I hate when people ask me if we're going to have more.  It's really no one's business.  And when I get the "hands full" comment, I just tell them they should see my heart.

babyb... babybluejess12

I have 3 wonderful kids! Each one is awesome. I'm the eldest of five and let me tell you none of us growing up were ever bored. We also had two working parents and we were always off having an adventure some where. I feel kids love groups and I never remember wanting more attention from my parents.

Michele L James

Sensitive much? None of it bothers me. Some people say the wrong things because they're awkward, like me. I really am a hero to a few moms I know. And who cares if someone doesn't like the fact that I have 5 kids? I'm too busy parenting to worry about it. 

nonmember avatar chel

How many kids you have is your own choice, but I will make a comment when I see a mother of 12 at the store with a foodstamp card.(IE: in my hometown) When you start having more kids than you can afford, then people can say whatever they want because the country is supporting them. Octo-mom included.

nonmember avatar Darwin

When I see the large group of loud unruly kids, the little dirty baby only wearing a diaper, and the welfare queen mom I want to yell at her to sew it up. I grew up in a large family (5 kids) and hated it. It's not for everyone. Families like the Duggars sicken me.

Katie Hesney Johnson

I don't judge the majority of the time, the majority of the big families I've seen have been super well behaved, of course one or two may be fighting, but *SHOCKER*, they're kids, they'll pick on each other occasionally. 

Now if I see a bunch of kids, one mom decked out in latest fashion while kids are in rags, I may judge a little. 

I'm one and done like pink, simply because I know we couldn't afford more than one with the debts we have (paying off, but stil....), and I'm on medication that says DO NOT USE IF PREGNANT. I'm perfectly happy with my little family, and I'm sure the majority of big families are perfectly content. 

kelti... kelticmom

Darwin, the Duggars are not on welfare, they have successful business and a huge house. Their kids are clean, well dressed, intelligent, well behaved.....what exactly "disgusts" you?

mommy... mommyof5cutties

Omg my doctor just said that to me! I found out I am pregnant with my 6th child and my doctor states "you know there are ways to prevent these things..." you know at that moment I walked out and am finding a new doctor... he talked to me as an inexperienced child... it wasn't in a joking tone nor did he even know me. It was my first visit with him as he was my assigned doctor under my insurance.

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