9-Year-Old Boy Kicked off School Bus for Exposing Himself to Little Girls

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school busWhen I first heard about the 9-year-old boy kicked off the school bus for exposing himself to little girls, I could only think as the mother of a daughter. In my mind, I put my daughter on that bus, and I wanted to cry. Then I wanted to race to Pittsburgh and have a long, hard talk with that boy's mother.

He's 9 and already a sexual predator!? What is this world coming to?

Folks, I've calmed down since the story first broke, and I've taken off my "mom of a daughter" shoes and thrown on a new pair.

I imagined myself as the mother of this little boy. Here she is with a son who was kicked off the school bus because he was showing his genitals to a little girl. And he is only 9!

I was still angry, but suddenly, everything shifted. I saw not the monster that was harrassing an innocent little girl but a 9-year-old boy. I saw a kid too young to really understand the consequences of what he was doing.

Should a 9-year-old know that he shouldn't share his privates with others? Of course. My 7-year-old knows that and has known that since pre-school. Fond as she was -- as all toddlers are -- of stripping naked, we had that talk before I enrolled her in any sort of schooling.

But knowing something is wrong doesn't necessarily stop kids, does it? How many times have you told your kids not to drop their coat on the floor, not to eat with their mouths full, not to do 100s of things that they continue to do because, wel, they are kids, and it takes kids awhile before they KNOCK IT OFF?

The problem is kids are still figuring out what is going to happen after they do something wrong. Will they get in trouble? Will they get away with it?

Not doing something wrong just because you want to be a good person is still a pretty nebulous concept for them.

In the case of this 9-year-old, I'm not excusing what he's done. He SHOULD be kicked off the bus. But that doesn't make him a monster. It makes him a 9-year-old boy who really needs to get some help NOW before it's too late.

And if I have to be honest with myself, putting myself on the other side here, trying to walk in this mom's shoes, has really taught me a lot about me, the mom. It's easy to get angry with the kids who hurt our kids. But we have to remind ourselves that kids are still kids -- all of them.

Put yourself in this mom's shoes. What do you think of this little boy now?


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nonmember avatar Anowscara

I wonder if the little boy could be a victim himself. Sometimes, acting out like that can be a symptom of sexual abuse. If I was his mother, I would ask him if somebody showed him to do that

douxm... douxmusique

I really don't.think all children get that certain things are just inherently wrong. I know that I have tried over and over and over to provide the reasons exposing yourself is bad and follow through with co.sequences but my 7 year old still gets hyped and excited and in order to make.people laugh he exposes himself. It's horrifying ans humiliating and I have done everything I can, including taking him.to behavioral therapy but he sti does.

Sometimes these actions don't mean a 9 year old kid is or will be a sexual predator, or that his parents aren't doing their job. Sometimes it just means we all need to keep working hard at teaching our kids what is and isn't appropriate behavior.

Mom2f... Mom2fourlove

Agree with last commenter!!

NellieQ NellieQ

This boy will learn that doing something that is wrong has consequences. He should be punished. And I do think that taking him off the bus is the correct action.  His parents can work with him on his behavior.  But while they are working on that his peers shouldn't pay the price. 

Pinkmani Pinkmani

Unless he is a mentally disabled or an incompetent 9 year-old, the punishment was right. By 9, every kid knows that it's called your private parts for a reason.

Whatever happened to telling your kid, "No one is supposed to touch or look at your private parts, nor are they supposed to show you or let you touch their private parts. If they even try to do that, let me know because they are a bad person."

Scott Davis

It might have been a peer pressure dare that the other kids were egging him on. I have see that done on a school bus before, with HS kids. 

paren... parentalrights1

Every neighborhood I've ever lived in has had some kid who flashes his weiner because they think the reactions are funny.

Julie Hull-Wilkins

wow..sexual preadtor, needs to be punishied? Jesus, really people. he was being a BOY, what in the hell is so very wrong with you people that you would list a 9 yr old in this manner. like as lil girls you never played Dr or had been flashed by a kid before, everyone needs to get off their polictial soap wagons and let kids be kids again.

frogg... froggyt11

I agree with parentalrights1

Every guy I know remembers flashing their wiener at someone as a kid, usually the little girl across the street or next door. Boys don't think things through.

TeamT... TeamTARDIS

Are you kidding me? Pulling down your pants and flashing your penis is way different than forgetting to hang up your coat.

The fact that people can shrug it off as forgetfulness is ridiculous. This boy is disgusting and he should be forced into therapy and his parents should start acting like parents.

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