7-Year-Old's Inspiring Message to Suicidal Soldiers Shows How We Can All Make a Difference

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"Ask for help!!!" wrote little John Murray on Post-it notes. It's a simple message, but also an extraordinarily profound one when you realize whom it is intended for. The 7-year-old is trying to help suicidal soldiers.  

His mission began after coming across a word on a military poster he did not know. Asking his mom Ingrid what it was, she reluctantly explained it was "suicide" and it meant "when someone ends their own life." So he went home determined to somehow help these veterans and active duty servicemen, who are killing themselves at a rate of 22 suicides per day (twice that of the civilian population). Inspiring? No question. It's bringing attention to an issue many people just don't want to face. If this child's concern impacted just one soldier, it is a major victory. But there is a bigger lesson in this boy's story for us parents.

“When they don’t have any broken arms or legs, and no blood, you can’t see the sadness inside them,” the boy explained. A letter from his mother about John landed on the desk of Army Surgeon General Patricia Horoho, who called his quest "a lesson for us all" and put the Post-it note story on the Army's website.

It is indeed an important lesson, but not just because we want and need our soldiers to ask for help. This shows how amazingly perceptive kids are. We often think they don’t really understand bigger issues or can't. John proves that couldn't be further from the truth. Of course we don't want children over-burdened with all of the world's ills, but if your child is curious and asking questions, perhaps it's okay to try to explain things in terms they can comprehend.

Even if it is not about a subject as serious as suicide, our kids should be encouraged to care. My son has recently become aware of homelessness. I have tried to explain how, sadly, some people lose their jobs and homes. He was especially struck by the fact that there are homeless kids too, so we then went through his things to pick out nice toys and clothes to donate. It's a small gesture, but an important one. John's story especially is certainly proof that you are never too young to make a difference.

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BamaG... BamaGridironGrl

I cried when I read this!  Bless this little boy's heart.  He's right, if he can change one person's mind, he has made all the difference in the world.  One of God's Angels, no doubt!


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nonmember avatar Liz m.

Congratulations at winning at parenting! This story gives me hope for the next generation.

Tal0n Tal0n

This just makes me bawl my eyes out.

Brian Berry

A lot of soldiers,marines, and others don't come forward due to the fact that it pretty much ends your career in the military and bars you from Re-enlistment. While some of you will say thats not that big of a deal, look up the number of homeless and jobless veterans in the USA today...now while your doing that dig up that look also at how many programs there REALLY is sponsored by the GOVT for veterans today....its pretty much a joke. The old saying soldiers take care of their own, rings true today. There are more programs that reach out and help more in the private sector then our own GOVT. So while I applaud this young child for tell soldiers and us veterans to just ask for help that is a double edged sword to most.

nonmember avatar Leann

Bravo, John! You're going to make a difference, even if it's one life. As an Army wife, I have seen too much suicide. Brian, I applaud you, as well. There is a broken system here that needs to be fixed. I hope you have a VET center in your area. Not the VA, but a center that has counseling available to the soldiers and spouses at no cost. Ours has helped me tremendously, as I suffer from PTSD. I urge you to try. God bless!

Mary Anne Sanchez Garcia

My son is in Bagram, Afghanistan and I have watched the news about the 350 or so soldiers who committed suicide last year alone.
December 2012, my son's battle buddy died in his arms and "HE CAME HOME A HERO" I am my son's only parent his father died a hero years ago saving 2 men and lost his life saving another.
I will be temporarily re-located to my son's base when he returns stateside to help him with Post Traumatic Distress Syndrome. I have read all signs but not one mention about "NO SLEEP"
Please keep all our deployed in your prayers and more so when our HEROES return home.

Helen Whatley Miller

What a wonderful little boy!
Mary Anne Sanchez Garcia, your son certainly is a hero - don't let ANYONE tell you differently. Sending love and light to the both of you, and hoping that he finds peace and comfort very soon. Take good care.

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