Beyonce's Sex-Fueled Halftime Show Was Empowering for Girls & Boys

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BeyonceBeyonce's halftime show at the Super Bowl was the kind of performance dreams are made on. It was electrifying (um, literally), riveting, and basically everything that a Super Bowl halftime show should be. So why are some people getting down on Beyonce as a bad role model for kids just because the show had some sexy parts?

The critics say that the sexy costumes and the sex-fueled lyrics make her a "bad role model" for girls, and I get that. Certainly, as the mother of a daughter, I worry about the saturation of sexy in the media, and there is a very real push toward sexiness for younger and younger girls.

But that doesn't apply in this case. Beyonce is in her 30s. She is a mother. She looks fantastic. She has built an empire and knows how to sell herself. So what is so wrong with a little sexiness? I would never tell my daughter she has to button herself down if she feels good about herself.

It's all about presentation, and in Beyonce's case, it's a fantastic one. She knows what she is doing. To me, that is the difference between empowered sexuality and sexuality at the behest of handlers.

Britney Spears or young Miley Cyrus may be bad role models because they are using their young, tender sexuality and pole dancing at the behest of cynical men who think it sells.

But there is something different about a woman who knows what she is doing and feels strong about herself and uses that to her advantage. Sex is a huge part of being a human adult and I would never want my daughter -- or my son -- to feel otherwise.

That is the kind of sexuality I would want for them. They know what they want. They are confident. They know how to say no. Beyonce isn't the kind of woman who is wearing a bikini for someone else's pleasure. She is doing that for her own pleasure. Because it feels good. Because she is BEYONCE.

So what's the matter with that?

People need to get over the idea that sexuality is shocking or demeaning. She was dressed skimpily and not embarrassed about it. As a feminist mom, I want my daughter and my son to have good sex lives at some point. I want them both to feel good about their bodies and their looks and know how to say no when they need to and yes when they want to.

I want my daughter to know that being a feminist doesn't mean locking her body away in a chastity belt. It doesn't mean never having sex and only focusing on "non-sexual" pursuits.

I want my son to know that women are allowed to be sexy AND strong. That he doesn't have to see women as objects or as virgins. That same woman he has sex with is ALSO someone with whom he can discuss business ventures and read The New York Times every morning.

It's not either/or, people. Beyonce shows us that. And yes, that makes her a damn good role model.

Did Beyonce's show bother you?


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Shandi80 Shandi80

The only reason I watched it was to understand what people would be talking about when the inevitable articles popped up all over the place the next day!

I felt it was lack luster and slightly trashy, but it didn't bother me, just disappoint me a little.

lobus lobus

Because it is sexuality in order to SELL. Do you hope your kids become prostitutes or strippers when they grow up? Didn't think so.

Jenniy Jenniy

I'm not a huge fan of hers, however I liked the performance.

JessL... JessLogansMommy

If you need a brazilian wax to wear your costume its probably a little too revealing!  But the more people talk about Beyonce's vagina gyrating on their tv's the more people will be trying to one up it so they get the attention.  She has a slammin body that everyone should be jealous of, but it is a family program and I don't know that I'd want my boys watching it.  They were in bed so I didn't have to worry, I could enjoy it as the adult entertainment that it was.   

gridi... gridironsmom

The show was okay but not appropriate for kids at the party I was at. Dancing and outfits do not have to be sexy to make entertainment enjoyable.

nonmember avatar Theresa

Sex-fueled? That's the dumbest headline ever. There were no sex simulations. It was sexy, but that's far from sex-fueled. You people need to stop exaggerating and making a big deal out of nothing.

backn... backngroovemom

I loved Beyonce's show and gree 100% --- she was classy and sexy at the same time as a woman, mom and definitely someone who built an empire

corri... corrinacs

LOL.  I was actualyl quite dissapointed in her show.  I don't know why, but it did not appeal to me at all.....her costume was quite nice, probably the best part.  But her dance moves....everything else seemed off :/.

My son was busy playing the iPad.  The one time he did look up at the screen, he mumbled something about it.  Then went back to his screen.  he's 5 and was unimpressed LOL

nonmember avatar Wrong Message

I found Beyonce's show to send a strong message that it is apparently not enough to rely on talent alone; you have to dress and act like a (blonde) stripper to entertain the masses. While I was impressed that her band seemed to be filled with talented women, I just dont get why their musical talent has to be overshadowed by such in your face sexuality -- especially for an event watched by loads of young adults, who take cues from this on what to wear and how to behave. What message is she sending to young women (and men) about what to value and how to relate?! She should use her tremendous star power to make the world better - not just make a zillion bucks....

tel4him tel4him

The difference is that girls don't know the difference between "I'm in control" sexuality and "I have to do this so boys will like me" sexuality.  Also, it sets up unrealistic expectations for our boys.  That whole show needed to GO!!

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