Last week, I had one of those moments in parenthood that pretty much every mom absolutely dreads. Yep, my 6-year-old son came home from school with a small piece of paper in his pocket, and lo and behold -- it had a little girl's name on it, along with her phone number.
And at first, I had to laugh a little, because he looked so darn precious when he handed me that piece of paper and told me that (we'll call her Sally) had given him her digits. I figured he'd probably forget all about Sally and her phone number by the next day -- but then the next morning, my heart sunk a little after he did the unthinkable.
Yep, he asked me to write his phone number down on a little piece of paper so he could take it to school and pass it on to Sally, you know, so they can both call each other whenever they feel like it. (Cue the feelings of sheer panic.)
And that's when I realized that my baby boy does, indeed, have his first girlfriend. Even though she really is a nice little girl, I'm not quite sure how I feel about it. I mean, isn't it way too early for this sort of thing? I vaguely remember having a crush on a boy when I was about his age, but I know for certain that we weren't to the point of calling each other on the phone.
No, I'm not entirely stupid, and I realize there's a chance that my little dude and Sally are just good buddies who want to chit-chat once in a while, but still. He doesn't call any of his other friends on the phone yet, so there must be some sort of puppy love going on with this little girl, right?
I know, I know -- I'm totally overreacting and whatever is going on between little dude and Sally is perfectly innocent and not worth getting all excited about. (At least he's outgoing?)
I guess I'm just not quite ready for Sally to be in the picture quite yet, that's all. (Translation -- I was hoping to remain his one and only love for at least another year or two.)
Ok, other moms of first graders, it's your turn. Does your son or daughter have a boyfriend or girlfriend yet?
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Would it make any difference to you if his soul and her soul were friends before they reincarnated? I asked my spirit guide a moment ago and that's the information he gave me.
Mine's in third grade, and is on his second "girlfriend". Only they're not "girlfriends". They're good friends who happen to have girl parts instead of boy parts. They don't go to the 'girlfriend' part unless we put it on them. I had to rein my MIL in at my son's birthday party one year b/c he and his friend were *gasp* holding hands. They were SIX.
Honestly, life isn't like when we were growing up. Kids can't just run next door, or across the street, or wherever anymore to see their friends. Playdates must be arranged. Schedules must be manipulated. Background checks must be done. The President must be notified. So you're surprised and dismayed when they exchange phone numbers? It's all they know! Do you just run next door to see your BFF? No, you call her/him. So why is it so shocking or disturbing when your son copies the behavior that you have modeled? I'm not saying that it's wrong, just that this is his frame of reference.
As I said, my son is in 3rd grade now. He currently has two BFF's... one's a boy and the other's a girl. He takes heat for the girl... "You love her." I tell him to look that kid right in the face and tell her, "Yep, I love "Sally". She's my friend and I love my friends." There's nothing to hide or be ashamed of.
Wish mine was in first grade and dearling with this. my son is in kindergarten and already says he has a girlfriend. the girls mom finds it hilarious, but sometimes i see it a little concerning.
She also has TONS!!! of female friends. They hold hands, they hug, they skip rope holding hands, they draw pictures for eachother, and share little classroom trinkets from the prize box.
Theyre 6. Dont make a bigger deal out of this than it is.
Its friggin adorable!
I figure, just teach kids good respect for their bodies, and only worry if they try to play doctor lol