A couple days ago, I read an article written by a mom who is sick and tired of other mothers trying to parent her kid at the playground -- by hovering over them and helping them get up and down ladders, on and off the slide, etc.
You know the moms she is referring to, right? The ones who stare you down at the park like you're some sort of neglectful idiot who doesn't give a crap about whether or not your kids get hurt? And then they take it upon themselves to step in and "help" your poor, ignored kid? (We've all run into them at one point or another.)
I sat there reading her words nodding my head in agreement, because I too want my son to learn to figure out problems on his own, and I want him to have a sense of independence so he doesn't rely on me to do everything for him. And I don't want or need any other mom stepping in to assist him simply because she doesn't agree with my parenting.
One particular line in her post about her feelings on why she feels that kids need to navigate the world on their own really struck a chord with me. She wrote:
I want them to feel capable of making their own decisions, developing their own skills, taking their own risks, and coping with their own feelings.
Wow. Amen. I honestly don't think I could've summed things up any better than that.
But even though I totally agree with everything she said, I also believe there are certain times when it is acceptable for moms to intervene and parent another mother's child.
When do you think it's ok to parent another mother's kid?
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Going to baseball games
Riding bike rides in the nice weather
Playing outside after work/school
Going for walks outside