Mom Confession: I Left My Kids for 2 Months

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I mean really ... how could I not miss them?
Last fall, I was offered a fantastic opportunity for a job. I was all set to take it, until I found out that they didn’t want me to work remotely for the two-month stint -- they wanted me on site in Boston.

I tossed the idea out the window, because Boston is 3,000ish miles away from my San Diego home, and that’s one heck of a commute. Then the planets aligned, my husband told me he could hold down the fort, and my mom said she’d take care of the kids after school. Three days later, I was kissing my babies goodbye and flying across the country.

I knew I’d miss my kids like crazy, but there were some things that I did not expect to miss about them. I mean, no one likes wiping noses, right? Then I’d find myself turning a corner or waking up in the middle of the night, and I’d be hit with a whole lot of I miss them so much right now!

These are the things that I did not expect to miss about my daughters but did anyway.

Middle of the Night Snuggles -- I don’t know exactly when it started or how it happened, but for the past year or two, our four-year-old daughter will more often than not wake up in the wee hours and tear down the hallway and leap into bed with us until morning. We’ve never been a co-sleeping family, and honestly, I kind of like my space when I sleep, so I was surprised to wake up lonely in Boston without her snuggly little body next to mine.

Cartoons -- I have no idea what’s going on with Phineas and Ferb, and that’s tragic. I guess I just don’t think to turn on something animated without the wee ones begging me to.

The Park -- Confession: Normally I hate the park. It’s germy, they want you to play with them, and if you don’t play with them you’re forced to make small talk with the other parents who you’re inevitably going to end up not liking anyway, and the whole thing only ends when someone falls and hurts themselves. Total nightmare. But I found myself walking past the neighborhood parks a little slower in Boston … Not a lot of things beat the joy of a kid on a swing.

Homework -- Haha. Just kidding. I didn’t miss that at all.

You know what I did miss though? The wonder and excitement evident in my children when they learn something new or understand the world around them a little bit better. And the satisfaction of victory that trumps the frustration of teaching that comes along when something finally clicks into place for them.

I knew I’d miss the hugs and kisses, and the love that my children show me every day -- what I didn’t expect was to miss just being a mom.

Overall, it was a great opportunity and I’m glad I did it. I’m incredibly grateful to my amazing family and friends that made it possible for me to go. I love you guys so much -- and now I love my girls more than ever.

What ordinary things do you think you’d miss most if you were temporarily separated from your kids?

 

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jalaz77 jalaz77

Going into their room at night and kissing them while they are asleep, the continuous hugs...ugh SOOOO much.

japan... japanmommy

The hugs, my toddler gives the best hugs. And watching them sleep.

Cel7777 Cel7777

I would miss the snuggles, the chatter, my (22 month old) son asking "what's this?" about everything, their smell, their softness, caring for them...I would also be extremely worried that they weren't being attended to exactly the way I would, because I'm neurotic like that :-)

nonmember avatar tulip

Exactly why I would/could never leave my children for that long. No special opportunity is worth missing out on the opportunity to kiss my little ones goodnight every day. They're special enough for me :)

NoR_C... NoR_CaL_MoMmY

I haven't even done an overnight from my kids yet. They're 6, 4 and 1.5. I was away from the older two overnight while I had the baby but even then their hotel was directly across from my hospital room and I could see it from my room lol. When I had my middle child my oldest wa able to stay the entire time so that was awesome. I miss my 6 year old so much when she is at school. I couldn't imagine being away for two whole months! Sounds like it was a great opportunity though and try we're in great hands! :)

nonmember avatar Kel

I just returned after leaving my two kids (7 & 3 yrs old) for a month and a half for work. I missed their hugs, kisses, and smiles so much. And their sweet smell. And their laughter is not the same on a cell phone or Skype. And I missed waking up with them next to me sleeping soundly after sneaking in. Geez... I missed everything except making 3 family meals a day and wiping butts. :)

nonmember avatar Kel

I just returned after leaving my two kids (7 & 3 yrs old) for a month and a half for work. I missed their hugs, kisses, and smiles so much. And their sweet smell. And their laughter is not the same on a cell phone or Skype. And I missed waking up with them next to me sleeping soundly after sneaking in. Geez... I missed everything except making 3 family meals a day and wiping butts. :)

Rosas... RosasMummy

the longest I've left my little one for is a week for a field trip with my uni which was a compulsory part of one of my modules. This year, fingers crossed I'll be going to the rainforest of Borneo to study tropical ecology for two weeks. mummy's it is ok to do things just for u especially opportunities that will only come once, ur relationship with ur children won't be damaged because u weren't there for a day or a week or even a month or whatever, have more faith in your partner etc. I understand not everyone has someone else and that's fine but if u do then there's no need for all this martyrdom!

MomLi... MomLily67

Oh my, I feel like crying just thinking about it,

Donald Loes

This is All nice and true For many many Moms, but remember this was just two months, so lets keep a perspective on the Moms who are deployed and keep them in our prayers daily, for those or the ones who are sacrificing more than seperation.

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