TMI Alert: 7 Things About Your Kid We Don't Want to Hear

Rant 47

Worst Mom EverThe more time I spend on Facebook, the more I hope that parents are putting a serious amount of money into the "future therapy fund" for their kids. Just imagine how many sessions with a good shrink it would take to get over finding out that all 544 of your mom's "friends" know you still wet the bed when you were 12. At least a few, right?

Parents generally mean well; we just love our kids so much we can't stop talking about them. But the sooner we realize that kids deserve a little privacy too, the less time we'll have to spend wondering whether our kids will end up hating us. So let's just strike the following topics off the "share" list, shall we?

1. Poopy Proclamations -- I'm not just talking about the "my kid just pooped in the potty" status updates -- although the image, y'all, the image! From a quick survey of a few friends, I noted reports of kids' diarrhea (announcing your kid pees from the butt?), constipation, and the rather awkward description of what exactly their child's fart smells like. If this doesn't seem wrong to you, allow me to posit this: how would you feel if people were discussing the scent of your gas behind your back and poking fun?

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2. Penis Problems -- Folks, your son's non-descending testicle may concern you, but here's an idea ... talk to your pediatrician about it! While we're on the topic, you may want to keep the following under wraps: the length of said son's penis and whether or not you chose to snip his foreskin. He will thank you when he decides to go on a date in 10 years that his new girlfriend's mom is not aware of these details.

3. Menses Matters -- It's fabulous that your daughter is now a woman. Mazel tov! Now can we keep the flow on the down-low?

4. Masturbation -- Don't think parents do this? I got this from a friend: "A woman told me about how she and her 12-year-old daughter discussed self-pleasure. While I applaud her closeness with her child, I don't think her daughter would have wanted ME to know." Couldn't have said it better myself.

5. Relationship Woes -- The backlash against the mom who blogged about her 14-year-old daughter's breakup should be warning enough here, but in case it isn't, let's clear this one up. Your child is in enough pain; they don't need every Tom, Dick, and that guy that lived next door to Mom from fourth through seventh grades knowing every detail of what she currently feels is the WORST THING THAT WILL EVER HAPPEN TO MEEEEEEEEEE. This is her story, Mom, not yours. Let her tell it if she wants to.

6. Custody Issues -- There's a reason judges are coming down hard on parents who air their family court laundry on Facebook ... because it's really, really unfair to their poor kids. Let me just remind you of something: you have no way of controlling how the people reading your wall will use that information. Do you really want your best friend's boyfriend's cousin reading your baby mama drama out loud with their kid in the room ... who will now use it to bully your kid at school? Keep a lid on it!

7. Grades -- This applies mostly to kids who are struggling in school; they're having a hard enough time without the whole neighborhood knowing they're failing algebra. Have a little compassion! But for those of you with a smarty pants in the house, a little goes a long way. Your genius probably doesn't appreciate you bashing everyone's head in with each A-plus either; it doesn't exactly build good will for her back at school.

Frankly, I could go on and on, but this is a good start, don't you think? Now, the next time you want to share a little tidbit about your kids, just think, "If this was about me, would I share it?"

What is the worst parenting overshare you've seen?




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LoveM... LoveMyKBabies

Hmm. The only one I've come close to is their grades. I did mention once that my older 2 (K & 1st) are reading well above average. Mainly because I read a lot & thought my friends would get a kick out of it. They call me a nerd lol. I'm very proud of my kids, my kindergartener came as a shock though considering he never wants to read at home :/

PonyC... PonyChaser

It is very, very sad that we even have to have a post like this. Honestly, what has happened to our society?

Erinly Erinly

A girl I knew in high school and her husband got divorced and argued back and forth about parenting via comments on a picture of their daughter- him saying she didn't discipline her enough, her saying he didn't spend enough time with her, etc. It was a train wreck.

cassi... cassie_kellison

I witness the relationship TMI too much. I knew a couple, more an aquaintance, that one day they would both on their seperate FB accounts post about what a piece of crap their spouse was and they didn't deserve this and they were leaving, the next day they would post about how they had the most amazing spouse in the whole world and they were the luckiest person ever. WEEKLY! I finally deleted them after they went on and on about how the flags should Not be at half mast for the Sandy Hook victims. That was the last straw for me with those phsyco's.

tbruc... tbrucemom

Agree with all but the last one.  My child is a senior and #5 in her class. I have no problem telling people about her success, she earned it.  I've heard stories where schools won't allow students to tell other students about what colleges accepted them so they don't hurt the others feelings.  Instead of being worried about hurting their feelings we should do everything we can to encourage them to do just as well. It's the same thing with "not keeping score" in a sports game or giving everyone a trophy.  Guess what? They really do know who won.

nonmember avatar NCC

Saw two poop pictures just this month from two different people. Sad thing is, I usually enjoy having parenting talks with them. But to me that's just rude beyond rude. Also sick of reading all the baby mama/baby daddy drama.

nonmember avatar Amy Darnell

tbrucemom, would you feel that way if you're kid we're a straight D student? Some kids just aren't that good in school. They might have a learning disability or have ADHD or something. It doesn't mean they are any less of a person. And being constantly bombarded with how well other kids are doing could seriously damage their self-esteem and then they may never be successful at anything.

the4m... the4mutts

I don't care about how other people's kids will feel to know that my 2 school aged kids always get straight As and are taking advanced reading & math classes. Its not my job to cator to someone else's kids self esteem, or worry that it will hurt the feelings of a mom who's kid isn't as high of an achiever. I'm proud of my kids, and I WILL brag.

The only thing that really bothers me where kids are concerned, is posting their full nudie pics. I don't think its right, and I don't want to see some strange kids privates.

nonmember avatar summer

the4mutts on Jan 10, 2013 at 12:50 PM
"I don't care about how other people's kids will feel"
Wow. Maybe it's not "your job" but what happened to treating others how we would like to be treated?

lasombrs lasombrs

I am so glad I dont do facebook

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