Parents Donate Their Daughter's Organs & Save 4 Lives

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Parents are supposed to die before their children. That's just the natural order of things. But life is full of tragic surprises.

Sometimes it even forces you to make some incredibly difficult decisions.

When Lindsey's 17-year-old daughter Jessica was in a horrific car crash, she was faced with a heart wrenching decision. Jessica was brain dead with her body being kept alive by machines. Doctors asked Lindsey if she wanted her organs donated, and the devastated mother recalled a conversation with Jessica saying she did indeed want to donate. So she did. And she saved four other lives because of it.

It's a truly selfless act, donating your organs so someone else has a chance at life. And this story really got me thinking. What if it were my 7- or 9-year-old son in this situation? They're too young to sign up for being an organ donor and they're too young to even understand the implications of it all. So there's no way I'd truly know their wishes.

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If one of my son's was pronounced brain-dead, would I want his organs donated?

It's easy to say, "Absolutely!" My kid would be gone, he doesn't need those organs. And if it can help save even one other life, it'd be worth it. But it's one thing to say that and an entirely different thing to actually do it.

If I lost my son, I'd want to hold him in my arms until the absolute bitter end. I'd want to hold on hope forever that his condition could somehow change.

By letting his organs be taken, I'd have to let my son go a bit earlier. They couldn't wait until he naturally died, they'd have to harvest and take them out sooner than later. I wouldn't get to hold him in my arms as he passed from this world to the next. I'd say my goodbyes as he was wheeled into the operating room.

That's pretty heavy stuff to think about. It's a real rough last image of your child burned in your mind. Not to mention the mental pictures of what surgeons would be doing to him after they took him away.

But on the flipside, if it was my child in desperate need of a liver or kidney and someone else selflessly donated theirs, I don't think I'd ever be able to truly express the insane amount of gratitude I'd have for that person. I've gotten to know some transplant survivors and they are nothing short of inspiring. There really is no greater gift than the gift of life.

It would be the hardest decision I'd ever have to make but I think my wife and I would both agree to let our son's tragic end bring a new beginning to someone else's life.

Would you let your child's organs be donated?

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kelti... kelticmom

It would be a heart wrenching decision, but yes, I would. Because God forbid, if my child ever needed an organ transplant, I would get down on my knees and thank the parents who had to make that decision to let their child save mine.

alway... alwayscurious

I will be eternally grateful for whomever made the decision to donate their loved ones organs so that my dd could receive a new kidney when she was just four years old. I can't even imagine being in that position, and respect anyone who is brave enough to choose that for their child.

Jespren Jespren

Organ donation is *supposed* to happen *after* death. I, my husband, and any children that should ever tragically proceed us, will be happy to donate any organs, tissues, or parts they can get use from *after* we are done with them. We will not be 'beating heart donors' whose lives are ended by the surgery to remove the organs we are still using.

nonmember avatar Stephanie.r.e

I'm thankful everyday I've never been in this situation and obviously thinking about it is different than it happening. But I would. It would make me feel good (eventually, I hope) to know that my child did something so amazing. Even after....

nonmember avatar jessablessa

I would donate my organs, but not my child's. Anesthetic is not used during the harvest. The doctors will tell you that the donor does not feel pain, but the fact is they can't use the organs if they use anesthesia, and no one can really come back to tell us if they suffered. I would simply not make that call for anyone but myself. I know this won't be popular, but it's my decision for my kid and I would respect yours as well.

Livin... LivinBlessed

A friend's 13 yr old cousin is getting a new heart right now. God Bless the family of the donor for being so selfless...

kjbug... kjbugsmom1517

Absolutely. I have a very close friend whos little boy is a heart transplant recipient and i hands down absolutely would should something happen to my kids donate their organs.

mamaw... mamawidup

I agree entirely with Jespren.

xiolxuo xiolxuo

Disagree with Jespren. If you're brain dead, why not help someone who still has a chance to live? Pretty selfish of you in my opinion.

nonmember avatar melissa

Hmm.. this is interesting. I believe in organ donating but I didn't know the details about it. I think for myself - if im brain dead and screwed basically - cut me open heart beating and all and take what you need.. but that is a choice I only feel comfortable making for myself. I am fine if I suffer ( I have a spiritual beliefs that make me unconcerned about it. What's a moment of pain for another ones lifetime of happiness? ) but I don't know I could make that choice for my daughter. ..it would be hard! I think it would depend on the circumstance .. I've read stories of people who were ' brain dead ' and family kept them alive and they actually came back! So I think I might just be that crazy too. Hopefully I don't have to make that choice. As soon as she can understand ill let her make that choice and we will talk.

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