Suri Cruise's First Christmas After Divorce Makes Us Sad but It Could Be Worse

Suri CruiseDarling 6-year-old Suri Cruise spent the first Christmas since her parents' divorce with both mom Katie Holmes and dad Tom Cruise.

No, no, it wasn't like that -- things don't seem to be exactly amicable between the celebrity couple formerly known as TomKat. Suri, who lives with her mom in New York City, stayed with Holmes and her family in Ohio on Christmas and has now joined Dad and her two older half-siblings.

Where they are exactly has been kept under wraps, but the magazine's website says there was a sighting of Tom's private jet in Telluride, Colorado, a popular ski resort and film festival town.

The whole thing sounds sweet enough, but all it does is make me want to cry.

It's been repeated so often it's become more than a cliche, but divorce is usually hardest on the children -- and there's no time where that's more pronounced than during the holidays. How do you think a child of 6 feels on a big day like Christmas with only one parent by her side when she was used to having both her whole, short life? And then having to travel across the country to be with the other parent?

It has to hurt, especially since Suri is too little to really grasp the concept of a marriage ending. When you're a child of divorce, all you wish for in the beginning is that your parents will make up and get back together (unless things were unbearably bad). It's a hope many kids hold onto for a long, long time after.

On the other hand, Suri's life is anything but "normal" -- did you hear about the playhouse she supposedly got for Christmas? She's the daughter of not one, but two richer-than-God movie stars, and is used to Mom, Dad, or both flying off to shoot a movie, act in a Broadway show, or be otherwise engaged with all things celebrity. Holmes' and Cruise's only child has also been traveling since she was a baby. So this holiday may not have been all that different from Christmases past, at least on the surface.

Plus if Tom and Katie's marriage was crumbling over Scientology and things before the split, Suri probably sensed it. Though divorce is immeasurably difficult for kids, living in a house full of tension -- particularly when that tension is between the two people you love most -- can be even worse.

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We'll never really learn the truth about what went wrong with Katie and Tom, no matter how much we think we know. But it certainly sounds like the Holmes-Cruise divorce in June was the right move -- for them, and for their little girl. In time, dividing the holidays and living apart won't be a big deal. And in the long run, Suri will probably grow up happier than she would have if her parents had stayed together.

Have you ever had to shuffle the kids between parents over the holidays for any reason, and how did you handle it?

 

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nonmember avatar Gretta

Wow she really looks like her Dad. That being said I surely wish our press would leave kids alone not hound them just because they were born (thru no choice of their own) to people who happen to be famous.

nonmember avatar Em

Kids are resilient. Provided that the parents treat each other with respect & cooperation kids of divorce can be fine. Love your child more than you hate your ex.

nicho... nichole513

She looks like her mom.

tuffy... tuffymama

Divorce is awful blah blah blah. I was six when my parents divorced, and we got REALLY poor, REALLY fast. Is your heart bleeding for me? What about all the other little kids who go to bed hungry because they live in poor, single family homes? Why don't you write an article feigning compassion for THEM? Stupid. Go cry over kids who really suffer. This kid will never even have to wipe her own ass or make her own sandwich. Getting out from under her wackadoodle father is a blessing, too.

ericabb ericabb

I was that kid.  At Thanksgiving, I would have dinner with my mom's side of the family and then spend the whole weekend with my dad.  We actually still do that; not the whole weekend but we go over for leftovers Friday or Saturday.  At Christmas, we'd alternate years where I would spend Christmas Eve and Christmas morning at one house and then go to the other around noon.

Frida266 Frida266

Leave this  6 year old alone and stop bashing people's religions.  I worry about my own kids enough.  Her parents are rich, talented and intelligent, they can worry about her.

Akash... AkashaGermaine

@Frida266- where in this article is religion mentioned?

nonmember avatar Yeah

Tuffy ... feeling sorry for yourself, eh? Jealous, too, obviously ...

nonmember avatar JLW

@AkashaGermaine, it's called Scientology.

nonmember avatar zach

Sheesh tuffy, you are just a bitter, unhappy person. Every comment you make is toxic. Who poisoned you against life and happiness? I pity you.

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