Talking to Our Kids About Newtown: An Open Letter to Parents From Michelle Obama

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michelle obamaWe are a nation in mourning. The tragedy at Newtown has affected the entire country, and as parents, maybe we feel it a little more acutely. We worry about sending our little ones to school, feel panic set in as that bus drives away every morning.

It's hard to know what to say to our kids when we can't even make sense of it all ourselves. But our kids do have questions, and they're looking for answers. First Lady Michelle Obama has written a very eloquent open letter to parents suggesting the things we can say to our kids to make them feel safe.

We hope her words help make you parents feel a little safer too and help us all get a little closer to healing.

Here, in full, her letter:

Dear parents,
Like every American, Barack and I are absolutely heartbroken about the unspeakable tragedy that occurred last week in Newtown, Connecticut. And like so many of you, our first reactions were not as a President and First Lady, but as a Mom and Dad. We were asking ourselves, what if this had been our town, or our school, or our girls?
And we know that all across the country, it’s not just adults who are asking questions right now -- our children are looking for answers as well. Like us, they want to know, why did this happen? Could it happen again? And as parents, all of us can take the time to hold our kids close and talk with them about the things that truly matter: our love for them, the importance of extending that love to those affected by this tragedy, and how that love truly defines our great American community.
We can tell our kids that we’re doing everything we can to keep them safe and make sure they feel loved -- and so are their teachers, coaches, faith leaders, Scout leaders, and everyone else who plays a role in their lives. We can remind them to be grateful for the educators who work every day to help them achieve their dreams -- and for the first responders who risk their lives at a moment’s notice to protect ours.
We can tell them about the extraordinary people of Newtown and how they have responded to unspeakable tragedy: the educators who sprang into action; the children who carefully followed instructions and comforted each other amidst the chaos; the neighbors and faith leaders who have come together to support one another.
And finally, we can tell them that it’s our job now to stand with the people of Newtown -- to pray for them and to find ways, large and small, to show them that they are not alone in their grief. It is now up to us to carry the memory of those who were lost in our hearts and to follow their example every day, living our lives as they lived theirs -- with courage, determination, hope, and love. Those are the values that give us our strength as Americans and that we return to in times of crisis -- not just because they help us heal, but because they define who we are, as a people and as a nation.
May the memories of those we lost be a blessing to their families, their community, and our country, and may God be with the people of Newtown as they begin the slow and painful work of healing and moving forward.  


Michelle Obama


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nonmember avatar ACE

Seriously, what was the point of that. I am insulted by that letter because I have already spoken to my children and told them all of that. Just because she is married to the president, she thinks that she is an authority and needs to tell all of us other lowly parents what to say? Give me a break.

jessi... jessicasmom1

nice words now do something to prevent anymore selfless acts of violence 

Alain... Alainalynn

Shes brilliant

Bryce... Brycesmommy21

RE:  ACE, She is NOT telling you you have to tell your kids that but for those who can not find a way to talk about it or the words then this is her reaching out to help. Stop being so arrogent!

nonmember avatar MO Mom

@Ace -the woman was speaking not as a First Lady but as a mother. She was simply sharing her thoughts. In the wake of this tragedy, can we please stop with the political crap? Its obvious that you are only complaining because you don't like the President.

Mitch Brown

Have you noticed that Micheele is getting lighter and lighter as the years go one?

Take a lok at pics of her in college -- she's still black.

What's up with that?

mommy... mommythree0508

I don't need advice from her on anything regarding my children.

tuffy... tuffymama

"Our strength as Americans??!" This from a woman who was never proud of her nation until her unqualified jackass husband was elected because he's black. Whatever. Next.

nonmember avatar Samantha

Wow, gotta love the hate people spew for fun. She was just trying to help, and no matter who she is or who shes married to, it doesnt matter. What matters is the heart behind this letter. Jeez people, get over yourselves already. And whose to say she wasnt patriotic before her husband became president? MOST of us "patriotic" people are just lazy ass people just like anyone else. Why dont you shut your mouth & you get off your frumpy ass and do something to prove youre patriotic?

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