My Out of Town Guests Will NOT be Sleeping in My Kid's Room


Should you make your child move rooms for out of town guests?With the holidays around the corner, we're gearing up for visits from our close relatives, who make the trek down to our neck of the woods every year.

Fortunately for us, we've got plenty of room, so they can camp out in the basement or our guest room without disturbing my own kids. But I know not everyone has as much room as we do. And I can tell you this, if we didn't, you can bet my out of town guests wouldn't be sleeping in my kids' rooms.

I'm all for showing hospitality to my family, even friends, and it's certainly good for my own kids to see that we do what we can to help out those we love, but I worked too darn hard to get my kids to actually sleep in their rooms to move them for an adult who should be able to sleep just about anywhere.

I'm more than happy to get them a blow-up mattress, or an extra blanket or two for the couch, but when it comes to sleep, if my kids don't get it, then I don't get it, and this makes me very unhappy.

But let's be honest here, that's just the tip of the iceberg. Because as much as we think we know Grandmom and Grandpa, what about Uncle Bill or Cousin Michelle who we haven't seen in years? We teach our kids to not talk to strangers and yet, we're willing to say that "2nd cousin twice-removed I'm not sure how he's related to you actually" will be sleeping with them in their bedroom.

Sorry, that just doesn't fly.

We never assume that we'll be able to stay with our own families when we go and visit them. Not just because we have four children and that's a bit challenging for anyone to accommodate, but also because we don't want to put anyone out, whether it's just us, or our entire family of six.

So as much as we're willing to do what we can for friends and family, if it means that we've got to risk our kids' sleep or safety, I'll happily direct them to the closest hotel and call it a night. I'd prefer to keep the "Happy" in my "Happy Holidays!" thank you very much.

Would you move your kids to accommodate out of town adult holiday guests?

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Momin... MominPa74

This is the first time in our 17 years that we're having overnight guests for Christmas. And NO they are NOT displacing my kids. They can sleep on the couch (niece and her fiance and their baby). I think unless it's Grandma with the bad back (or Grandpa) and they can't afford a hotel, then I would consider one of my kids beds. And the kid would sleep on the air mattress (youngest is 10 and would get a kick out of it). But if I had small kids I think I would pay for a hotel for Grandma over moving kids.

Pinkmani Pinkmani

I hated doing that as a kid! It's not like I wanted to see people there in the first place. 

Recently, I've had a family member invite herself onto OUR family vacation. Kids on the floor with blankets... No fair! Then she joined us for dinner and guess who paid for that, too? We lied to her about when we were leaving so that she woule leave early. This is the same person that asked for a $2,000 in August and went on a cruise in November. 


Wowzers Pinkmani! You must have the patience of a St!

kisse... kisses5050

Four bedroom house. plus sun room House guests come..

My father gets the guest room

My brother and sister in law get one daughters room

My other daughters room goes to my sister and her husband

Our room goes to the five kids all girls with our bed and two blow up beds( our room is big

My husband turn the sunroom into a makedhift room for us

The front room couch pulls out for  anyone else  with a trifold screen and shelf for privacy 

Yes the family is misplaced from their rooms..It is called hospitality! It is called manners! It is called thinking of the comfort of others before yourself. Maybe some of you teach your children that they dont always come first. Guests get the best most beds. EGADS.

Senia... Seniahmom

Depends on the age of the kids. Junior high and up your room is fair game. Younger than that and guests get my couch or my bed depending on needs.

stace... stacey541

We have once a year guests that we move the kiddos for. In the past they have always taken the babies room because he was so portable-just throw up a pack in play in our room and he was good. This year I am not positive who's room we will give them....but either child will have a blast making a "pod" on our floor and sleeping in with us. I remember growing up doing this too-we always had such fun when cousins came!

MsRkg MsRkg

We have guests rooms in my home which usually provides enough space for a few people , however in the event that we have more people than rooms there is a 5 star hotel on the next block which my husband and I are more than happy to cover the cost of. I refuse to displace my child for anyone and wouldn't want anyone to do that to their kids for me.

nonmember avatar Celia

This annoyed me as a kid. I was already sleeping on the couch since I was 8 I didn't get my own bed til I was 12 and we'd have the occasional guest. Naturally my brother didn't have to give up his bed but us girls did. I also don't like going out of town/state to stay in a family members home I'd rather stay in a hotel because I don't like feeling like I'm bothering or making someone bend over backwards for me I'm not comfortable with that.

jalaz77 jalaz77

I look at it this way, don't have overnight guests. If you don't have enough comfortable beds/rooms you don't have the room. It's not hard. I never expect anyone to leave their own beds for us to sleep on. Anyway it's kind of gross when others sleep in our bed. My MIL and her BF has stayed in our bed while we were on vacation a few times, they bring their own pillows. I wash sheets before AND after. It kind of grosses me out. But she is doing us a favor and I wouldn't ask them to sleep on a blow up when there is an empty king sized bed in the house.

nonmember avatar Eloiseel

Sure, don't teach your kids to think about anyone else but themselves. That it's ok to be temporarily burdened because you get the benefit of spending time with loved ones. I understand if you are talking about toddlers, but older than that, consider it a lesson for them. Or deal with the repercussions when they are entitled, selfish adults, and they are put out when you come to visit them. Smh!

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