Jada Pinkett Smith Tells Off Judgy Moms Who Criticize Her Parenting

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Finally, someone knows how to take on those judgy mombie types. Thank you, Jada Pinkett Smith. Have you ever checked out her Facebook page? Girlfriend keeps it real. She likes to send out long, heartfelt messages to "a friend" (i.e., you). And in one of her most recent messages, she took on moms who had an issue with her allowing her daughter, 11-year-old Willow, to cut off all of her hair and dye it blonde. I know it's hard to believe, but some moms actually took issue with this. Oh wait, it's not hard to believe. Because some moms take issue with everything! But Jada put them in their place. Here's what she had to say ...

Jada wrote on her Facebook page:

The question why I would LET Willow cut her hair. First the LET must be challenged. This is a world where women, girls are constantly reminded that they don't belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination.

I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit and her mind are HER domain. Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair. It's also a statement that claims that even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother's deepest insecurities, hopes and desires.

I thought that was a pretty good response, don't you? At the end of the day, it is only hair. It grows back. Unlike, say, the tattoo I bugged my mother for at age 14. Her answer: "You can get one when you're 18." At 18, I no longer wanted one.

Why on earth would anyone have a problem with a kid choosing to sheer off her hair? And yet ... and yet. Of course some moms had a problem. One replied:

I disagree with you ... If you allow ur daughter to do any and everything because she has "control over her own body" what makes you think she respects you as a mother instead of respecting you as simply a friend.

Errr, I'm sure Jada would draw the line at anything she considered out of the realm of her daughter's decision-making capabilities. But hair? It grows baaaaaaack, people. As for her tongue piercing, it's fake.

Do you let your child make his or her own style choices?

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abra819 abra819

moms are just judgy bit*ches anway.

Nicole Jordan

I've always thought the whole "you need to be their parent not their friend" thing was very strange.  I have a 16, 18 and 20 year old that are healthy and happy.  I think we all agree that my husband and I have been good parents and good friends at the same time.

amber... amberdotsmom

A long time ago I read a parenting tip that stuck with me - why it struck me I don't know but I liked and kept it........basically it said be really strict when they're very young, unbendingly strict if necessary; then when they get older and want to rebel as most kids will that's when you bend.  Let them get that third piercing or dye their hair pink and shave one side because if that's the worst thing they do then who cares what color their hair is when you're trying to make sure they're drug free, not pregnant and passing school.   I think that's what Jada is doing here - if Willow wants to express herself through a "radical" hairstyle and she's got her head on straight then good for her.

Lynette Lynette

I have been criticized for letting my oldest son grow his hair out, he's 10.  You pick your battles and hair is not one I think is worth the fight.  As long as he keeps he takes care of his hair, ie clean and brushed than he is in charge of that.  Children need to be I powered to make some choices on their own.  decide what you can give on and what you can't. 

doodl... doodlebut

My kids have a say in their hair choices, but we have the final say. I don't mind if my12 year old dyes her hair, I don't mind if my 14 year old grows it long. But I won't let my daughter shave her head, I won't let my son dye it green. My younger 2 who are 8 and 7 have no say yet.

ritoj... ritojenny28

i'm a mother of a 6 and 7 year old boys. i want the best for my kids. one day,they will be on thier own. i'm not going to run thier life then. i believe kids should beable to voice thier ideas, so they can learn  to do it on thier own.we as parents have to live with the choices we made and we need to pass what we learned on to them and let them make mistakes and explore, but at the sametime watch over them, as they do so. 

nonmember avatar Pentherapee

Their own style? ABSOLUTLEY! Something permanent like tats, piercings (bsides ear) etc. ABSOLUTLEY NOT. I am not my childrens' friend. We do friendly things together, have fun, keep open dialogue blah blah blah but I will be weighing the consequences if ALL decisions before I say yea or nea. My life's experience will help me determine if you as my child are truly ready for it. When you bcm a legal adult, show me as time goes on you can handle increasing decision making and/or you are paying your own bills then baaaaaaby we can be bff's lol! I don't have a problem w jada's decision plus they are in the entertainment biz so their lifestyle is different out the gate so more leniency may be more acceptable then some others. Great article!

Jai Hutto

My son has complete reign over his hair. Last year (when he was 9) at one point he had a green mohawk....and it looked awesome. He felt confident because it was a decision that HE made for HIMSELF. And, might I add he looked AMAZING with it. It really suited him. My son is a great kid. He gets straight A's and is on a 9th grade reading level and comprehension. I am proud of him and I can' WAIT to see what kind of man he grows to be.

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