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When Are Kids Too Old to See Their Moms Naked?

by Mary Fischer on November 14, 2012 at 12:11 PM

tub full of toysI guess it was bound to happen sooner or later, but for some strange reason, I thought I at least had another year or so left -- I didn't think "it" would happen as early as last night.

And by "it," I mean the realization that my son is probably too old to see me naked. (When I'm getting out of the shower or getting dressed, people.)

Most days, my 6-year-old little guy sits in my bedroom and colors while I take a shower, but about once a week or so, I fill up the big tub in the master bathroom, and let him play with his toys and have a nice soak while I'm taking my shower so that I don't have to deal with him walking into the bathroom every five seconds asking, "Are you done yet, Mom??"

(You gotta take the small moments of peace when you can get 'em.)

So last night, I put him in the tub with a bunch of toys, enjoyed a 10-minute shower, and when I was done, I opened the shower door and reached for my towel like I always do.

And that's when it happened. I looked over at my little dude in the tub, and he was sitting there with his hands over his mouth trying not to giggle. I asked him what was so funny, and he laughed out loud and said, "Nothing!"

And at that exact moment, I knew my days of shower multitasking were over. Because obviously my kid realizes that I have boobs and a va-jay-jay, which are two things he does not have, and he finds it funny, which means seeing me naked is embarrassing to him (it is to me too, kid) -- which ultimately means he's officially too old to see me in the buff.

(Ugh. Guess I'll have to get the hubster to install a towel hook right next to the shower so I can grab it and cover up before stepping out.)

When my son was about 2 years old, I asked a friend who had older boys about what age I should start worrying about being nude in front of him. She looked at me and said, "You'll just know. Trust me."

Well, she was right. And now I know. I guess 6 is the magic number in our case.

When do you think kids are too old to see their moms naked?


Image via Mary Fischer

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  • amiec...


    November 14, 2012 at 12:26 PM

    I was worried about the same thing! Good thing my little one is only 3, I guess I have 3 more years to go!

  • Marth...
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    Martha Linn

    November 14, 2012 at 12:29 PM

    Wow. How uptight can you get. He's 6. Maybe you should take the time to explain how nudity is nothing to be ashamed of, although, yes it can be funny. 

  • Maggi...
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    Maggie Kolb

    November 14, 2012 at 12:37 PM

    Mary, I'm with you.  Once my son started making a big deal of the difference between our bodies, I began to use that opportunity to enforce the idea of privacy and decency rules in the house.  I like being a little uptight.  Trust me, we could be way more uptight.  I know some very buttoned up moms around here that make me look like a commune living hippie, and I'm way more uptight than you.

  • LSeab...


    November 14, 2012 at 12:42 PM

    My son is 3 almost 4 and just asked me yesterday why I had those things on my chest and he didnt. He tried to poke them. Now I am self concious. LOL

  • LSeab...


    November 14, 2012 at 12:43 PM

    As much as being nude is ok we are trying to teach our son that women need their privacy. If he didnt understand that I would hate to have to explain to him what a tampon was becasue I would get ZERO privacy.

  • Maris...
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    Marissa Beyes

    November 14, 2012 at 12:58 PM

    If you make a big deal out of it then your child will be ashamed of being seen naked. I don't go out of my way to walk around naked in front of my kids, but I don't hide either. It's ok for a child to see their mom naked. My daughter being comfortable with her nudity around me is how I found out she had be molested. 

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    Jennifer B Kinghorn

    November 14, 2012 at 1:10 PM

    I have a daughter and we never hit that age as a result. She doesnt want me to see her naked (started at about age 10 and shes 17 now) but she doesnt give a fig and neither do I if she sees me naked.

  • heather
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    November 14, 2012 at 1:20 PM
    Both of my daughters , age 8 & 17 are completely comfortable with both my nudity and theirs around me and each other. I don't have a son, but if so I do believe I'd be in the "uptight" category. After all , obviously there comes an age when daddy is no longer seeing our girls nude, no different to me than mommies and sons.
  • Rebec...


    November 14, 2012 at 2:06 PM
    I have a 7 year old daughter and she sees me naked all the time. I still help her get dressed for school.(she is high functioning Autistic) My hubby will helo dress her as well. My hubby does keep covered up in front of my daughter. She will let us know when she is ready for privacy. I think 10 up is when my hubby should not be dressing her and helping with baths. I think making a big deal out of nudity will not help your child with their body image and self esteem.
  • jaznrich


    November 14, 2012 at 2:08 PM
    Just the other day, my almost two year old pointed at my lady area, tilted his head, and said "no pee-pee?" with a very curios look ok his face. I got a good laugh out of that.
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