Missing Iowa Girls' Parents Write Heartbreaking Open Letter to Their Daughters’ Kidnapper

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Missing Iowa girlsIt feels like just yesterday that we were wrapped up in the news of 11-year-old Lyric Cook and 9-year-old Elizabeth Collins, the missing Iowa girls who disappeared in July. Did you realize it's been four months? The girls' parents have spent four long months waiting, wondering what happened to their daughters. And I have to say I was surprised by the contents of a letter the Cook-Morrissey and Collins families have released to mark the four-month anniversary of the girls' disappearance.

The letter is addressed "to whom it may concern" because the missing girls' families have no idea who abducted their daughters. And these people whose pain is so obvious have an amazing amount of compassion for the person who has put them in this state.

As the letter, which was written by Elizabeth's mom Heather Collins but also signed by her husband, Drew, and Lyric’s parents, Daniel Morrissey and Misty Morrissey, says:

We can sort of imagine that you must not have had the things you needed to grow up feeling safe and loved. Because only someone who hurts inside would hurt another person and their family. We’ve all heard the saying, “Hurt people, hurt people.” We believe that is true.

We are so sorry for whatever happened to you, when you were growing up. Certainly, all children do not receive all the love and care they deserve. Some are even abused by those who are supposed to have taken care of them. When that happens, it is very wrong.

I can't imagine the strength it took for a woman like Heather Collins to write those words. She could easily have written a scathing letter full of anger and vitriol, and we would have understood. This is a mother who lost her child, a woman who went from having a daughter one day to having no clue what had happened to her the next.

If it takes a strong person to admit their mistakes, I dare say it takes a stronger one to forgive that mistake. Certainly when the mistake is as heinous as the abduction of your child, to have the aggrieved party show compassion is on a miracle level.

This letter may not have any effect on the case. After all, you have to be a certain kind of sick to steal children in the first place. But if the man or woman who abducted Lyric and Elizabeth has a heart, that letter will do something to them.

Put yourself in the families' shoes. Could you write a letter with such sympathy for the person who did this?


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dirti... dirtiekittie

i can't even fathom putting myself in their shoes. but i will say - these are two incredibly strong, and loving, families to write such a letter. i don't know that i could be so compassionate while wondering where my own baby is at. that kind of selflessness is beautiful, and we'd be in a better place if more people felt that way. my prayers go out to the families.

nhamp... nhampton401

If we all lived this way, the way God intends us to, the world would be in a much better state. I hope and pray that one day, we can all be this selfless and compassionate to those who hurt us. Show love to all no matter what the circumstance. I pray for these families and admire them greatly.

Michelle Gilbert

What totally amazing and inspiring women. WOW.

Terri Hutchinson

I know that I could not, it's sad, I know, but there's no way I could show compassion, in any other form than faking it in order to hopefully get the answers I was looking for. I say this after going through the pain of watching my best friend lose her son to a monster, he was just 7 weeks old when he was shaken to death by his babysitter and I have spent many years trying to come to terms with it, trying to find someway to forgive her, stop letting her live in my head and coming up on 6 years later next week, I still have not been successful. I can say that she/they are probably better people than me, so no need for anyone else to say it, but I don't give compassion to compassionless people...

Heather Pluskota

nope if someone kidnapped my kids this is exactly what i would say..." to whom took my kids, you better hope that its the cops who find you first rather than me because i will slowly hurt and kill you" i would never be that nice.  i think its great they can be kind like that but i never could..

nonmember avatar shakes

I could absolutely write an understanding letter to my child's abductor. I would do ANYTHING to secure the safety of my child. And I mean anything. If forgiving a captor and trying to appeal to their soft side might be worth a shot, I'd do it. If my child disappeared I would throw up everyday and lose my breath. The only thing that would keep me alive is the thought of my baby coming back and needing mom. God bless these families. Jesus, if these girls are alive please be with them and fill their hearts with strength. Amen.

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