Melissa McCarthy's Daughters Are Lucky She's Not a Size 6

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melissa mccarthyTo me, one of the trickiest challenges about being the mother of a daughter has always been making sure I don't pass on any of my own weird insecurities and body image issues. It doesn't take much to plant the seed, unfortunately -- complain about your thighs out loud one too many times and presto! Your kid hates her thighs, too. So I really admire Melissa McCarthy for not caving in to the pressure associated with being overweight and refusing to publicly shame herself.

Because for some completely infuriating reason, it seems like McCarthy's size gets brought up every time the poor woman gives an interview, and the actress is smart enough to know that someday, her daughters (Vivian, 5, and Georgette, 2) are going to read Mommy's answers to those weighty questions.

Perfect example? McCarthy's recent interview with "Good Housekeeping" magazine. Somehow, the star managed to address the tired old topic without validating the idea that size and self-worth are connected:

“Pretty much everyone I know, no matter what size, is trying some system. Even when someone gets to looking like she should be so proud of herself, instead she's like, 'I could be another three pounds less; I could be a little taller and have bigger lips.' Where does it end? Sometimes I wish I were just magically a size six and I never had to give [my weight] a single thought,” she said.

“But I am weirdly healthy, so I don’t beat myself up about it -- it wouldn’t help, and I don’t want to pass that on to my girls.”
 
Then McCarthy went on to talk about her family's healthy eating, exercise habits, and all-around awesome life, adding:
 
“You just have to say, ‘It’s pretty damn good. I am right here at the moment and I’m OK with it. I’ve got other things to think about.’”
 
Which means her daughters will have other things to think about, too. And that's awesome. Well done.
 
Do you worry about passing your body image issues on to your daughters?
 
 

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Rebec... Rebecca7708

I don't have daughters but, I do have two sons. Boys can be just as influenced by their mother's body issues as girls. I worry about it alot.

BethA... BethAnnJay

I have always been confident in my body issues, directly influenced by my own mom! She has struggled with her plus size her entire 66 yrs, teaching myself and 2 sisters that beauty is truly in the eyes of the beholder!!!! My amazingly beautiful mother taught us that strength and confidence are more attractive to everyone than any superficial visual! I am not going to win a top spot as a Victoria's Secret model, but I will be remembered as someone who modeled excitement and happiness through my laughter and exuberance!! THAT is what I learned from my mom and I WILL pass on to my beautiful daughter! Fuck "size"!

the4m... the4mutts

I have been lucky enough to me mostly content at any size/weight I have been. Would I like to lose a little? Sure. But I don't bitch and moan about it, I don't degrade myself often, and when I talk about my eating habits I make sure to say "no thank you, I've noticed that food makes me sooo tired. I need all the energy I can get!" When offered junk, or extra desserts, or fast food.

That way, I don't gain wait, and my kids know I want them to eat healthy for the right reasons, and hopefully their body image won't cross their mind much.

Oh, and I agree with a pp who said boys are influenced just as much as girls. I had a proud mom moment the other day.

My 9 y/o son pointed out to me a girl he has a crush on, in front of his classmate. The classmate said "ew, WHY?!"

My son looked at him like he was stupid as a box of rocks, and said "because she is smart, fun, and is always nice to me."

SCORE! My son has a crush on a homely, chunky girl that wears her older brothers clothes. I couldn't be prouder.

Felly... FellyScarlett

Wait, so why are they 'lucky' she's not a size six? Would she be a bad mother if she weighed less? The title make no sense.

Iyana... IyanaNana

I do. I have two daughters and a granddaughter. My oldest seem to have a few issues with her body and I don't know if she picked that up from or not. If she told me that she picked that up from me I wouldn't be surprised. I try not to worry about my body as much seeing that my husband says that he loves my body. I think I'll take his word over mine, this time.

aom1112 aom1112

That is something I have thought about. I know growin up I always got the "you can be better" and have body image issues (sometimes). So I hope I have managed to control them enough to not pass that on..,. cant say that about my mother though. =\

velve... velvetheart83

I don't worry about it, my husband accepts me the way I am & thanks to him I am comfortable in my own skin.


his mother is another thing. She tells me her son only likes Skinny girls & if I want to keep him, I need to get down to 100 pounds... Screw that, I like to keep my bones on the INSIDE. But she definitely crossed the line with our daughter. Pick on me is one thing, but not my baby girl !


She's 6 & like most girls she has growth spurts, grow up, grow out etc. She's in the grow out phase, so she is pudgy but once she gets a growth in height it will even out.  She spent 1 night with them & came back telling me she's fat, no one likes fat people & she needs diet or no one will love her. They insisted they didn't say it "that way", but shouldn't have saif it at all. She's a little girl! trying to love herself is hard enough without her own GM telling her she needs to diet. 


The hardest part is, I've tried to fix it & shower her in attention/praise for months & she is still thinks it, What can I do?  They also told her she needs makeup to be pretty, she is gorgeous! I don't want her trying makeup until she's 15+ I want her to love herself 100%.


She was born with it, it is NOT Maybelline.

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