Some watchers of Teen Mom 2 would say Jenelle Evans has it made in the shade. She has a hit TV show, and her mom does all the heavy lifting with her son while she goes out to party. But these days Jenelle says she's done with the party scene and focused on getting custody of little Jace.
And when Jenelle sat down with The Stir to talk about the third season of Teen Mom 2, which starts Monday, she had a big confession. All that fun she's had and all the controversy she's stirred up? She's worried about what that will do to her son in a few years.
Jenelle, who told us she has developed social anxiety because of the people constantly watching her and trying to sneak pictures of her in public, says she's well aware of the people who criticize her. She even reads what they say on the Internet.
But what really bothers her is the thought that her troubled past will haunt Jace:
I said the other to my boyfriend the other day, I'm really scared for Jace to go to school and other kids knowing who he was and making fun of him for that. I'm worried that people are going to be like oh, your mom was nothing but a deadbeat or oh, your mom doesn't love you, which isn't true.
I just don't want that to happen to him.
I can't blame her for worrying. When we send our kids off to school, we send them into a world we can't control. Out there we run the risk of them finding out things that we've long been able to sheild them from. That could be anything from the truth about Santa Claus to the fact that a certain member of the family has been in jail.
The problem isn't the other kids at school so much as the parents of those kids. Kids are little sponges, and they pick up so much more than we realize when we're talking. Talk about the parent of one of their classmates, and the next thing you know, they're repeating the gossip in class.
As parents, we need to be aware that the things we do, the mistakes we make, will likely wind their way back to our kids one day. We need to think like Jenelle, to prepare for what might be hiding behind the next corner. We need to be able to protect our kids.
On the flip side, the parents of Jace's potential classmates need to be aware that whatever they see on TV, whatever they think of this little boy's mom, they need to keep it to themselves, at least when their kids are in the rooms. The same can be said of any parent. If you want to say something about anyone your child might know, wait until after they've gone to bed!
Do you worry about your past mistakes being thrown in your kids' faces at school? What do you suggest Jenelle do to protect Jace?
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