Boy Scout Sex Abuse Scandal Is the Final Straw for Many Parents (VIDEO)

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Boy Scout abuseThe Boy Scouts of America has been under fire for many reasons over the past few months, including their stance on gays. But it's the latest abuse scandal, alleging that 5,000 men have been expelled from the organization in the past 50+ years over allegations of sexual abuse, that should be the final nail in the group's coffin.

As a mom of a 4-year-old boy, one thing is clear to me: my son will never, NEVER be a Boy Scout. In many ways, these scandals make me think the outdated organization ought to just go away.

The last thing I want to teach my son is that discrimination is OK. But even worse, how does an organization that prides itself on growing strong men possibly justify allowing men to get away with abusing children? It's sick. See below:

As the mom of both a boy and a girl, it drives me insane when people imply I need to worry so much about only my daughter. Boys can be victimized, too, and as we have now seen with the Catholic church and Penn State football, it happens all the time.

What are moms supposed to do?

To me, it seems obvious. On top of the fact that I would never allow my son to do Boy Scouts, I also plan to educate him early (starting now, he is 4) on good touch and bad touch. I want him to be comfortable with his body, but also with his emotions. I want him to be able to talk to me.

Part of what is so scary about these abuse scandals, both in the Boy Scouts and the others, is that these are organizations where children are specifically going to gravitate. It's not very hard to imagine how a boy could be victimized in the place he thought he was the safest. That's a terrifying fact.

All we can do as moms and dads is to make sure our sons know what's OK and what's not. We want them to understand that even so-called "authority figures" don't have the right to touch them or to ask to be touched. Their "authority" is over the activities and behavior of the children at whatever event they are moderating. But it isn't to touch the children.

Part of what is so sad about all this is that, as a mom, it's impossible to trust anyone. Is that teacher who takes a special interest in my son REALLY interested in him? Or is he a predator waiting to pounce? The more stories like this one hears, the worse that fear becomes.

So what can we do as parents? We arm our kids with assertive things to say and we teach them about personal space and minding their own bodies. That's all we can do.

Would you let your son join the Boy Scouts?

 

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cmjaz cmjaz

Spoken like someone who was never going to put their child in scouts for any reason.

nonmember avatar Gretta

I am wary of thinking if I just avoid this organization or that organization, then my kids will be safe. I don't think it's that easy or clearcut. I think the most important thing to do is to teach your children about good and bad touching and to NEVER NEVER keep secrets from you. I have been teaching my kids that they can and should tell me anything and if anyone ever tells them NOT to tell me something, then that person is wrong... very very wrong.

dirti... dirtiekittie

as horrible as this situation is, we cannot let ourselves live in fear. and what if you put your son into scouts that DIDN'T have any predators? i think that scouts teaches kids some very important lessons, and while as a mother i absolutely worry for my children, i won't let it dictate our lives.

nonmember avatar NoWay

Sasha, why don't you just put your kids in a bubble? There is danger everywhere. Always has been and always will be. The best thing for our kids is to teach them to protect themselves. We will not always be there to hover over them.

nonmember avatar scoutmom

Breath, count to 10 backwards, exhale...repeat. First of all, no need to throw out the baby with the bathwater. You could choose to shelter your child from life so he/she is never exposed to a predator. However, if you are an involved, engaged parent, you can often prevent such tragedy. I am the mom of a Scout and all adults involved in the Troop MUST take child protection/ predator awareness training before they are allowed to interact with the kids. One thing we are taught is that predators prey on children who are vulnerable - who may not have a strong family, who are searching for a "father figure", or something similar. To prevent your son from engaging in Scouts is completely your right. However, I have found it to be a rewarding experience. My son is not an athlete and is socially quite shy. This organization has given him confidence in ways I never would have predicted. How about letting your son decide what he's interested in and you becoming engaged in the activity as well so you can keep a watchful eye on him? You might be surprised. Again, breath......

jagam... jagamama0710

Color me NOT surprised. You forgot to mention that not only did this crap happen, many times it was covered up to protect the "scouting" name.

nonmember avatar CC

As an over protective, and often called "paranoid" mom, my son and husband have just become involved in Cub Scouts. Of course articles like this make me want to burn his uniform and never look but, but I cannot hide from the fact that my 6 year old LOVES it. He and his Dad have a wonderful time together and I applaud the principles this organizations teaches. I was taken aback when the very FIRST lesson for his first badge was about inappropriate touching but my husband assured me it is because of this horrific cases where it has occurred. I see it as an organization which is learning from their mistakes.
My son is a Cub Scout and goes to Catholic school - two entities which are racked with these parental nighmare stories - however, it makes us hyper vigilant. We talk about touching and secrets. Hopefully these evil predators will make the rest of our parents, better, more aware, and more protective of our boys so some good may come.

Elizabeth Heather Hope DeVirgilio

My son is 4 as well and I want to get him into stuff and have a fun active life, but this just freaks me out. I mean, in the Boy Scouts? Really?! I know it can happen anywhere, anytime...but geeze...if people keep getting charged with these crimes there will be nothing left for our kids to be active in...these organizations were started for kids to get out and feel safe and have fun and learn...and now people just have to ruin everything.

Danny Haszard

Jehovah’s Witnesses hit with $28 million sex abuse settlement Oakland,Calif.-Google it.

Jehovah’s Witnesses have many issues with sexual molestation of children.The religion and its members are more concerned about protecting the group image than the victims.

TWO WITNESSES required.
The Jehovah’s Witnesses require ‘two witnesses’ to a crime or it didn’t happen,you are supposed to ‘leave it in
Jehovah’s hands’ wait on the lord.
How many pedophiles allow an eyewitness?
These people engage in a door to door ministry, possibly exposing children to pedophiles.
The Watchtower corporation has paid out millions in settlement money already.
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Danny Haszard *tell the truth don't be afraid* FMI
http://www.dannyhaszard.com

PonyC... PonyChaser

Perhaps you should put back in the part that you left out. That the "perversion list" that you are speaking of ended in in the '80s. Since that time, the BSA has enacted Youth Protection Training (the course that Scoutmom referred to). ALL registered leaders must take it in order to become registered, and then we must repeat the training every two years, or we are no longer leaders.


NO leader may EVER be in a closed-door session with a boy. Ever. If you must take a boy aside for a private meeting (as is done with "Scoutmaster Conferences" once the boy reaches Boy Scouts (age 11+)), it must remain in view of others at all times. Private discussion with the Assistant Scoutmaster - go to the corner of the room. We'll give you your privacy, but we must be able to see you. Period.


Boys are taught NEVER to keep secrets. In the front of EVERY Scout's book, there is a section addressing the parents/family of the Scout that talks about protection of the boys. The BSA takes this very seriously. Yes, they have learned from their mistakes.


And if you're THAT worried, perhaps you should be one of the moms who gets involved instead of sitting on the sidelines and letting everyone else take responsibility for your kid.

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