A Good Mom Teaches Her Daughter To Pee Standing Up

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toiletI have a confession to make. I sit on public toilets when I am out. My name is Amy Boshnack and I do not know how to squat and pee. I never learned. It's not my fault. My mother just always had me line the toilet with paper, then sit, then pee. I fared okay -- mostly.

The college years were tough. Nasty bars, no toilet paper. I had a few gross moments. And camping, of course, was a challenge. Thankfully, most of the time, there was at least some sort of outhouse with a rim I could sit on (after wiping rim clean and lining it, just as a proper young lady would do.) Oh ... and when I studied abroad and realized that a lot of European spots didn't think toilet seats were a necessity -- yeah, those were hard. But I powered through.

I did have a friend or two over the years try to teach me. Because that's what girlfriends are for, right? They would stand nearby and try to talk me through it ... but it never worked and either my butt would end up touching the toilet (unlined) or I would pee on myself. Is that TMI?

Anyhow -- this all leads to my giant parenting FAIL. I have a daughter and I don't want her destined to a life of nasty toilet wiping/lining. I have enlisted a friend of mine to start working with her ... but I think it might be too late. She is already 8-years-old and may be too set in her ways. She lines the toilet just like mommy. You can laugh -- but this is the kind of thing that she will carry with her for the rest of her life. I need to figure out a way to teach her to squat and pee. Maybe there is a video on YouTube?

Please tell me I am not alone here ... is there anyone else out there that never learned to squat when they pee? What are you doing about your daughters?

And just as an aside, I have a request for you squatters out there ... not sure if you realize it -- but you are always leaving pee on the seats -- that I end up wiping. It would be wonderful if you could work on your precision for us non-squatters.

Do you squat or line the toilet with paper?

behavior, education, girls, kid health


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linzemae linzemae

I never squat, I'd piss all over myself

Gina1109 Gina1109

I've tried a million times , thousand different ways and I can't squat to pee. I get it everywhere or loose my balance... I whipe the seat and line it. And thankfulky, I have a son who I don't have to teach to "squat"

Trina... Trina.mhmm

Its not too hard. Lean forwards and try to keep your legs lined up as if you were sitting (more closed than open) and stick your butt out a little lmao kinda like you would up at bat in softball! :)

Venae Venae

I just sit - unless it's wet already - which is what people who squat do - wet the seat for the rest of us.  So thanks!  Honestly - you are not going to catch anything from the seat - butt skin is not where the cooties reside.  You'd have to rub your vajay-jay all over the seat to catch anything and even that would be sort of hard to do.

linzemae linzemae

Oh that's amazing venae. thanks for making me laugh

Histo... HistoryMamaX3

I had a friend once say it best... "If nobody squated, nobody would need to!" Please, just use the bathroom properly and clean up after yourself and then we'd never have to fuss with it.

And to burst anyone's bubble in regards to 'sitting' on paper... it takes roughly 8 layers of standard toilet paper to create an effective barrier. You aren't doing yourself any good using a layer of toilet paper, or even the flimsy paper guards! Also, if you use the disinfectant wipes- you have to wait the necessary 5-10 minutes in order for the germs to actually die- just wiping and sitting does no good either.

Nolanzo Nolanzo

This may sound bizarro but I swear on my life it is possible... women can learn to pee while actually STANDING... yes, just like the boys do. It requires extensive practice but it can be mastered... google for instructions so I don't have to get TMI with the details here. Comes in verrrry handy once you can do it well.

Betwe... BetweenCourses

I had been thinking of making this group for a while now, and this article just gave the push I needed.  The Clean Seat Club 


It's just a group for ladies that want to promise to keep it clean.  I am soooo sick of icky toilets.  Please please please stop peeing all over the seat and leaving it for someone else.  It's YOUR pee, YOU clean it up!

Momma... MommaGreenhalge

NOBODY NEEDS TO SQUAT OVER A TOILET SEAT! Sit your prissy little butt on the toilet and quit wasting paper or peeing all over the seat!

Desti... DestinyHLewis

I vary Clorox wipes with me, and i have the hover method down pat. lol I refuse to use public bathrooms if it can be helped at all. My step dad calls the smell in those places "colon dust" he thinks its hilarious to remind us while we may just think it is a nasty smell, it is actually particles of other people's waste coming into our mouth and noses. After that explanation, I have a hard time not barfing the second I walk into smelly bathrooms. I have mastered not peeing. We went to Disney a few weeks ago, left at 8 AM, and didn't get back till almost 1am. I didn't pee once till I got home. Lol I have 3 girls, so I can't totally avoid them, but my kids know to get the wipes out first, and I started teaching them to hover with potty training. oh!! We don't leave pee p. the seat. I make sure to wipe it off with a new Clorox wipe if it happens. Sooooo gross!

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