How to Boost Your Kid's Self-Esteem (VIDEO)

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Rejection and failure hurt when it happens to us, but when it happens to our kids? Now that's truly painful. Seeing them sad just tears our mom hearts right out.

Sympathizing and comforting them is important, of course, but how can we empower them to take failures in stride and learn from them to become confident and caring people?

Karen Walrond of Chookoloonks fame takes this topic on in the latest episode of her show. She and Dr. Laura Markham talk about how to get kids through tough times and boost their self-esteem in an empowering way. Check it out below.

The most important thing, they say, is to validate your kids. Rather than applaud their accomplishments or ask how they did on a test or in a game, praise the way they do something. For example, if your child is struggling with homework, praise how they keep at it and figure it out. If they are facing issues with friends, tell them you know it hurts instead of trying to cheer them up. And the sweetest thing? Praise something about who your child is. "I love the way you whistle all the time," for example, or, "It makes me happy to watch you play soccer."

Check out the video: It's less than eight minutes to better parenting!

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godde... goddess99

I encourage my dd to do the things she loves. She loves rocks so we found a rock and mineral club for her to join. All the other members are 15-50 years older than her but she loves it and fits in.

Kmakk... Kmakksmom

Wonderful video!

dusky... dusky_rose

Very moving! I think that it is important to take time for your children, just to listen and to help them learn how to express how they are feeling.

Chari... Charizma77

Very encouraging video, thanks

Bob192 Bob192

I try to tell them everyday how much I love them.  I give them choices and try to praise them often.

elasmimi elasmimi

Our school has sent home an assignment to help kids talk about their feelings. Mine has no difficulty doing this anyway, and we always try to validate them, even if they are painful.

kellynh kellynh

Love the video!!

Kayla... KaylaMillar

very good video! 

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