I'm man enough to admit that I enjoy a good snuggle. There's really nothing like sleeping in late on a Saturday morning, only to be woken up by your kids jumping in your bed, turning on the TV, and curling up next to you as they watch SpongeBob flip Krabby Patties for the umpteenth time.
Yeah, just hanging in bed, half-sleeping with the kids is great. Sleeping with them through the night, however, not so much. At this point, it's mostly because they'll toss and turn a bit and keep me awake. Or my snoring will wake them, so they'll toss and turn and wake me. And somehow, I always get blamed.
Apparently, though, men who sleep with their kids get a few points docked off their Man Card. I'm not making a statement here, just pointing out a fact. According to a recent study, fathers who sleep right next to their kids have a lower level of testosterone.
It's an interesting study. I'd imagine the evolutionary reason for this is that testosterone is generally associated with aggression, so lowering this amount can only be helpful for the child's safety. But where does it end? If I sleep with my kids in the same bed every single day from birth until their teens, will my testosterone completely vanish? Will I be something between a man and a woman?
This certainly brings into play the hot topic of co-sleeping with your infants/toddlers. Some families just go whole-hog with co-sleeping until the kids are way past the toddler stage. My wife nursed for over two years with our kids, but we only had them in our bed for the first few months if I recall.
I'm not against co-sleeping; it's just something I wouldn't want to do beyond a few months. I know plenty of parents who still get horrific sleep these days because their kids (we're talking third and fourth grade or higher) continue to run into their beds in the middle of the night and sleep with them all night.
If you're going to co-sleep with your kids, I say more power to you. But just be prepared to be doing that until they're ready to borrow the car from you. You'll get no sympathy from me if you start complaining you can't get any sleep because your kids keep you up all night in your mega family bed.
And with this latest study, the longer dads keep co-sleeping with their kids, the more likely they may be to start shopping for dresses. Just saying.
Do you think it's harmful for dads to sleep close to their children?
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Hahaha! Don't knock dress shopping! Its kinda awesome! I'm sure you would look lovely in fuchsia.
We co-sleep though we have the crib 'side car' to our bed. Ours is only 13 months but I'm so ready for her to have her own bedroom. My hubby's parents were co-sleepers so he doesn't mind it... though he is ready as well. It may have something to do with our son getting ready to pop out some time in the next 2-5 weeks. Plus.... he has been the one fetching the midnight bottle since I am on the crib side of the bed. Me getting out of bed these days looks something like a whale doing the crab walk.
I have to question this study. There are sooooo many variables that could go into this study that it makes it almost absurd to even say it makes a guy less manly (low testosterone) to co sleep with their child. Im not sure about you all, but my husband is as manly as they come, and he co sleeps with our kids. Not on a regular basis... but they have been known to climb into our bed at 3 am.
Some of the cutest pics I have taken of my hubby and the each kid has been them fast asleep snuggled up on the couch.
This wasn't tongue-in-cheek. I know the difference. It was insulting and rude.
Interesting
I actually agree with your approach. I never coslept with my kids because I didn't want to have to fight with them later for MY bed. Sleeping is MY time and I give that up the first year, I don't want to keep giving it up. If you're going to do it that's cool, but don't complain to me. When you ask me for advice on how to get your kids to sleep through the night don't get pissed when I suggest putting them in their own beds. Simple as that.
i think it's just fine for both mom and/or dad to co-sleep with the little one's. it's not for us though. lol our almost 5yr old and 3yr old are night ninjas. i've lost count of the times i've woken up with my hubby smooshed up against the wall, me in the middle of the bed with my back screaming at me, and the little knee knibblers plastered up against my leg and shoulder. :)
No, why would it be?