Friending Your Child's Teacher on Facebook Is a Really Bad Idea

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Facebook Many of us meet our children’s teachers and hit it off. Quite frequently the teachers are in our same age group and may even have students in the same school. It’s very easy for the line between teacher and friend to become blurred, especially if you are a room mother or spend a lot of time in the classroom volunteering. But should you ever be friends with your child’s teacher on Facebook or other social media sites?

No matter the situation, the answer is the same ...

Hell, no!

It may seem like a great idea at first. Who doesn’t secretly want to know what their child’s teacher is up to in her time off. I think we’d all like to know indefinitely that our child’s teacher is beyond moral reproach, and what’s more convincing than a Facebook page filled with statuses of Bible versus or photos of her children playing quietly while Mommy reads her Bible study?

But let's not forget, if you can see everything Teacher is up to, she can see everything you're up to as well. Do you really want Mrs. McGillicutty of the second grade to know all of your personal business?

My girls go to a private Catholic school and I'm pretty sure no teacher would find my pro-choice Facebook statuses to be a good thing. At school, I present myself as a well-intentioned room mother who volunteers her time and talents wherever and whenever the school might have a need. I am an upstanding member of the school community and HASA. I work hard to keep this image at school. It serves me well.

I don’t need Mrs. McGillicutty seeing a wall post from my college roomie in reference to the girl she knew back then drinking too much at a frat party and vomiting in the quad. I don’t want the school faculty finding my blog.

Not to mention, what my daughter’s 25-year-old teacher does when she’s outside of the classroom (as long as it doesn’t involve the authorities or spill over into the classroom) isn't really my business. I think it’s best for everyone if we keep our relationship professional. If there is truly a friendship there, we can become Facebook friends when my kid is no longer her student.

Would you friend your child’s teacher on social media?


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stork... storkneedsgps

I'm a teacher and would never want to be Facebook friends with my students or their parents. My life is my own

nonmember avatar Rach

@Todd- Because scientists don't believe in religion (eye roll)? I'm a senior studying physics and my fellow future scientists classmates, and myself, are just like the rest of our society, some are religious, some aren't. Religion and science aren't mutually exclusive.

Tonya Putnam

I am a teacher and a parent.  Not only am I friends with my kids' teachers, I am also friends with other teachers in our district.  It is a great way to get information back and forth to each other, such as if my youngest is having a bad series of migraines, I can message his teacher on Facebook and let her know that, as well as email it to her.  If my kids' teachers want to go out on the weekends and have a good time, whose business it is but their own?  Everyone is entitled to their free time, and I am not going to fault an awesome teacher because of what she does or doesn't post on a silly little social media site like Facebook.  People need to get over themselves and remember that everyone has a personal life, and everyone has the right to do what makes them happy.

mamivon2 mamivon2

sure.. idont care about their private lives..

godde... goddess99

Not in a million years would I friend anyone from my dd's school district.

Leele... Leelee1008

I have friended my boys teachers only after they were no longer in their classes anymore. two of which I loved and they love to be able to see how my boys are doing after they have moved to higher grades.but to friend while they are in it, NO.

mrswi... mrswillie

No, I wouldn't 

count... countrygirlkat

I became friends with my boys' preschool teacher but waited to friend her on facebook until after they were done with preschool.  I like to keep the boundries there to show respect for them.  With that being said though, I am good friends with a teacher in another state and so I have her on facebook and she is friends with tons of parents from school on her facebook page and she makes school announcements and such on her facebook page.  

Bmat Bmat

I wouldn't, but then I wouldn't think that a wise teacher would put compromizing activities there either.

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