I can't imagine how awful it must be to see one of your children arrested. To watch her handcuffed and placed in the back of a squad car for breaking the law has got to break a mother's heart, make her fear for their future, and question how this person who was once her tiny baby ended up in such a situation. But what if that same mother is the one who called police and had her child arrested?
I came across a story from TheDenverChannel in which a mom had her 12-year-old arrested. Surely, she could have found a better option, tried therapy, or punishment or something, I thought when I first read it. Twelve is so young, but in light of everything that went down, I think the mom probably did the best thing -- both for herself and her daughter (both of whom aren't being identified).
According to the station, it started with an argument the woman had with her daughter after school that escalated when she came home after work and found that the daughter had a friend over at their house, which wasn't allowed. The mother called the friend's mom and had her come over to pick up the friend. When they left, things got ugly.
The mom tried to walk away and go upstairs, but the daughter pushed her away from the stairs, the report said. They went into the living room, where the daughter attacked her mother, punching her in the face, the stomach, and the arm.
The woman's son stepped in and broke up the fight, and the woman called police. Her daughter was arrested on suspicion of misdemeanor assault and harassment and taken to a juvenile detention center.
More from The Stir: 4-Year-Old's Drawing Leads to Dad's Arrest
The case is painful in so many ways, but the mother said "she needed to send message" to her daughter, and when it comes to this level of violence, perhaps this was the best way. The woman said this was the second attack she had endured, and no one should have to take that, even if it's coming from one's own child.
I'm already bracing for the coming years with my children when they will inevitably start rebelling, challenging, and pushing my buttons with extra force. I hope that along the way I'm teaching them lessons and setting an example as to how to keep that in check and not let it get out of hand like it sounds like it did in this situation. But what if that's not enough? Sometimes it's not, and whether it's drugs, alcohol, or violent behavior, what do you do when your child rebels in a way that's harmful to himself or others?
While involving the police and having something put on their record is certainly nothing a parent would ever want to do, sometimes it may be that kind of tough love that you have to practice to try and save them and your family from further damage.
Can you imagine a situation in which you'd ever have your own children arrested?
Image via Daquella manera/Flickr