We all know that parent. The mom who cannot accept that her child is disrespectful and instead insists he is "right." The dad who tells his kid that school doesn't matter. Yikes. Teachers do not love these parents that are undermining the classroom and therefore their own child's education. But there are also more minor offenses a parent can commit that can add up.
Of course, many parents who wind up on "the list" don't even realize it, which is part of the problem. If you want to guarantee that you're not that parent that all the teachers dread having in their classroom, read on. Here's how to be a parent teachers love.
Read every communication that comes from your child's school. Be it email, a note stuffed in her lunch box, or a packet in the mail -- this information is being sent to you for a reason. We all forget the occasional permission slip or parent/teacher meeting, but flat out ignoring school communication is not only lazy, it causes stress for everyone involved.
Understand That You Don't Know Best
Unless you're also a teacher and have the same degree and years of experience in the classroom as your child's teacher, guess what? You're not the expert here. By second guessing everything from curriculum to dress code, you're telling your child's teacher that you know how to run things better than they do. How would you feel if your child's teacher came into your office and told you that you were doing it wrong?
For all parties involved, it's a great idea to be ready and willing to sit down and talk with your child's teacher when necessary. It doesn't matter if it's because of a problem, or a positive, discussing your child and her academic career with her teacher is always productive. If you can never make parent/teacher conferences or open houses -- you're hurting your child.
Don't Trash Talk
If or when you have a problem with your child's teacher, take it to the teacher. Parents who gossip at pickup rather than trying to problem-solve are a teacher's worst nightmare. It kills morale and sets up a negative "us vs. them" dynamic. This isn't good for anyone, least of all you and your stress levels.
Are you "that" parent?
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