The hot button debate about whether or not spanking is a viable, productive way to discipline children has gotten more fuel for its ongoing fire because, you know, proponents for each side just didn’t have quite enough material to quibble over up until now. The latest in the long lineup of postulations is new research from the University of Manitoba in Winnipeg, Canada, which claims disciplining kids with physical punishment such as spanking—and, of course, its handmaidens, shoving and slapping—may raise their risk for developing mental health problems when they get older.
From the gate, there’s a problem with the assertion. The research is clearly skewed as a bully pulpit against corporal punishment because shoving and slapping are so not in the same category of discipline as a swat across a kid’s behind in a moment of correction or a spanking out of love as part of a parent’s plan to set an unruly child straight.
As a matter of fact, the study’s author, Dr. Tracie O. Afifi, lumps spanking in with not only shoving and slapping, but hitting, grabbing, and pushing, in essence making those actions out to be one in the same. WebMD takes it one step further by adding in denying bathroom privileges, forcing a child to eat disgusting substances, or withholding water and food.
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Seriously? I know opponents are eager to prove their point that all physical discipline is the handiwork of a less loving parent, but there is a line between punishment and just flat out abuse. Let’s review: if you wail on your kid without any kind of emotional or psychological bolstering, if you pull out the belt or snap off a switch at the least little misstep, if your kneejerk reaction is to raise a hand or foot to mollywhop a child into better behavior, then you might just be an abuser. But that’s not the case for moms and dads who correct with an occasional spanking and follow that up with loving conversation that reinforces the values and expectations behind the punishment in the first place.
American parents are pretty much split down the middle between the spankers and the non-spankers. Forty-eight percent of U.S. moms and dads use corporal strategy when time-outs and talking-tos just won’t get the point across. But according to Afifi’s research, physical punishment increases a person's odds for having a mood or anxiety issues, alcohol or drug abuse, and personality disorders. According to the study, between 2 and 7 percent of mental health problems among the 35,000 subjects involved can be attributed to physical punishment.
At the end of the day, you can find research to support just about any theory, thought, idea, or belief if you dig long and hard enough. I think this is just another attempt to pare parenting down to one blanketed method instead of letting folks find out what works for their families with free conscience. And since kids don’t come with an instruction manual, I think our time would be better served stepping out of the gray area of corporal punishment and trying to figure out how to help in some of the 1,001 other areas that are less objective, more cut and dry, and much more in-our-faces.
So, do you think kids who get spanked are more susceptible to having mental issues as adults?
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The problem with spanking is it usually falls into the hands of those that are the least equipped to do so discerningly. A "good" spank... I can only imagine the data source or training on that.
Real, effective behavior modification: modeling and discipline (guidelines and consequences). Which is not the same as punishment. Big difference.
A shout to @Gonneke Van Velduizen-Staas and @Blaise Ryan, too, among others. Thank you!
Spanking never hurt me nor my hubby. Just wish we could parent our kids the way we without fear of DPS.
Many students hit in schools have disabilities like Autism http://www.hrw.org/news/2009/08/11/stop-beating-students-disabilities-schools.
19 US states allow taxpayer funded school teachers, coaches and administrators entrusted with the care and education of children to hit them with wooden boards as punishment for minor infractions with no safety standards : AL, AZ, AR, CO, FL, GA, ID, IN, KS, KY, LA, MS, MO, NC, OK, SC, TN, TX, WY, Some state laws do Not require parental consent or notification for children to be hit in school!
Federal Bill to End School Corporal Punishment at http://www.change.org/petitions/support-h-r-3027-to-end-corporal-punishment-in-us-public-schools.
Spanking your child ( Discipline) Beating up (Child abuse)
I am a strict mom but loving and yes ts possible to be both.
At home we give:
Affectional love: Hugging, appreciation.kisses
Material love: Will give or buy anthing they want or need when they deserve it
Parental love: We make sure our kids are doing well physically,mentally and emotionally
Communication love: We have conversations sit together talk to each other
Play time love: We joke we laugh play board games go to the park
Tough love: This one has 3 roles here
A: As parents we have rules at home school and for everywhere and everything and if they follow an respect these rules they won't have to deal with letter B and C.
B: Punishment will take away their favorite game or toy and make them stay home have them do more chores like washing dishes and cleaning.
C: Spanking this will happen if A and B is not followed. Sure after spanking still have to do A and B no matter what.
When my 16 year old son saw the video from student verbally abusing the lady in the bus his response was 'These kids have no manners they need some good ole spankin' I am happy I am not like them.'
PS: "I rather go to jail because I spanked my child, than my child go to jail because I never didn't"
I've only ever been spanked in anger-my mom had quite the temper, so my only experience is being repeatedly hit by someone who was obviously in a rage. And yes, it did me some damage in terms of my relationship with my mom, my relationship to authority figures in general, and some trust issues. I KNOW that this is not the correct way to spank and that most parents who spank do not do this. However, never having experienced it the 'correct' way, I was terrified of repeating the pattern that my mom had with me. I never wanted my children to be afraid of me the way I was afraid of her. So it was easier, for me, just to take spanking off the table completely. My kids are now 10, 8, and 5.5 and have never been spanked. They are turning out just fine (in fact, my son recently got a comment on his report card about how respectful he is to adults.) I'm happy with my decision because, given my history, I think this is the best choice I could have made for myself and my kids. That being said, do I think a swat on the bum from a parent who is under control will scar a child for life? No, I don't. But I think that parents who take this idea and cross a line with it can do damage- and I was scared of being one of them.
It isn't how hard you spank, it's the knowledge of "I'm getting spanked". Draw it out. Do the whole thing that you remember from your childhood - bend them over your knee, explain exactly what they did wrong while they are there, cup your hand so it makes a loud noise and you barely have to spank, and Oh yeah, the reason you wanna yank their jeans down? Just like when you clap your hands. Skin on skin makes a lot louder noise. You don't have to feel guilty about spanking them "so hard" because you really are spanking them as light as you can, but that cupped hand will make a helluva noise and really get your point across. There have actually been times where I never really did the spanking, just the leading up to it, and then just clapped my hands, and the child to this day swears they got spanked.
WHEN did I spank? There was the time my little one ran in front of a car and the only way they weren't hit was because I got a handful of Tshirt as they went past. The stuffed toy they dropped wasn't so lucky. There's hurting the pets when they have been told not to do whatever they had done to cause the hurt, there's deliberately doing things that they have been told "If you keep doing/don't stop doing you will get spanked...."
NEVER did I do what my own parents did, and that what my mother's favorite line; "Wait until your father gets home" and then 6 hours later, my father would be chasing me with a belt for something I couldn't even remember.