As rumors have it, Katie Holmes filed for divorce from Tom Cruise because she was afraid he was going to push some major Scientology voodoo on their 6-year-old daughter Suri. Apparently Tom was ready to pack the little gal up and ship her out to a crazy, militant brainwashing-esque group called Sea Organization. That may've been the final kick in Katie's butt to get her the hell outta Dodge.
As expected, most people are ecstatic for Katie and continue to bash Tom and his science-fiction-author-created "religion." I'm certainly no fan of Scientology. And if all the rumors are true, I hope the cult gets shut down for good. I'm also not a huge fan of Tom Cruise, though he does make some good movies. But unlike the majority of people embracing Katie these days, I've got to throw my supportive hat into Tom's ring.
Why? Simple. Katie knew what she was getting into. She knew Tom was extremely into Scientology. She knew he divorced Nicole Kidman and the baggage involved there. So why is she suddenly grabbing Tom's daughter and running now?
You can easily equate the whole situation to a mixed marriage. I'm not talking about skin color here, but religion. When someone Jewish marries someone Catholic, there's bound to be some friction down the line when kids come into the picture. Your choices are either to raise your kids under both religions or pick one from the onset.
Many times, parents will put off the religion discussion. "We'll figure it out when the kids are older," they'll say. And when the kids are older, that's when the disagreements start and things get ugly.
Is it fair to put your child in the middle of your and your spouse's religious war? Absolutely not. So talk it out before you even get married. You may only be thinking of yourself at that moment, but if you have strong religious beliefs to start with, then you need to think of your future kids.
In other words, don't be selfish. Yes you're in love and want to spend the rest of your life with this person, but if you have such differences of opinions on something like religion, it's only going to lead to heartache later on. You might as well just adopt a kid on your own in that case and not even bother with the whole marriage thing.
If nothing else, Tom Cruise has never kept his religious beliefs secret. If Katie disagreed with them from the onset, she never should have married Tom.
Do you think you should decide what religion you're going to raise your kids before you get married?
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Everyone says "she knew what she was getting into , that he was Scientologist" Knowing somone is a memebr of a religion doesnt mean you really KNOW what all is going on/what they believe in, especially in one like scientology.. If you are going to think of it that way it would be as bad as say you Married a catholic and then your child was sexually abused. Would you then tell that mom , well you knew that there is a big history of scandal with priests abusing kids so its your fault your kid was just sexually abused?
Regardless of WHY you married one thing is always clear...you want to protect the delicate psychology of your children from harm. A vow should never preclude that. If it does then break the vow. I am all for ending any marriage that asks you to sacrfice your children's mental and emotional well being on the alter of faith and or for the sake of the marriage alone.
To say " HE/She knew what she was getting into " is very cheuvanistic. It is a way of manipulating someone into doing what they feel is no longer right for them. Katie, like every other human being on the face of the planet, has the right to choose what is best for herself and her child. Marrying a man who is crazy does not nulify that. Just like being an alcoholic does not mean you can't one day kick the habit. Imagine a world where no one is allowed to move past a bad choice because "They knew what they were getting into." (besides, what does that have to do with what you know TODAY about a situation?)
Regardless of a promise, a vow or what others may believe you are never ever without choice. Even about your marriage. I hope Tom's faith was worth the loss of his family. If this is all true, it was more important to Katie that her children be happy in life than to have a husband. THAT is admirable.
Something you're not thinking of, or at least not mentioning. Maybe she changed her mind. People are known to do that from time to time, even on something as big as religion and marriage.
Um, this isn't exactly your typical Methodist vs Catholic convo. It's a cult. There is no "talking" to Tom about religion. The decision was bring a child into the cult or not? She did and she is very brave to try to get her out. I hope it works.
I've always been team TOM!
there is a lot you allow yourself to change into a relationship before you realise it... my ex was not a scientologist but he was a charismatic christian and a narcissist and you realllllly dont know until you get swept into breathing to give someone else air what it is like it is not "just having the talk" and it wasn't until my little girl screamed and and said " Nooooo I cant eat a popsicle I can onnnnnnly eat popsicles with daddy "and went an sat on the couch and began rocking that I snapped out of it and picked them up put them in the car and drove away. A mother thinks with her a whole differnent kind of love when it comes to her child!
Agree, except I will say, sometimes it is hard to fathom all the reprecussions of an "out there" religion/cult until you see the impact on the kids and where the path is heading, and then you wake up really quickly. I agree, but I still don't fault Katie for thinking she could handle it at a time before she had Suri.
Good heavens, Andrew! People make all kinds of decisions in their twenties that they realize are silly/crazy in their thirties. And certainly decisions that you make before you have kids may bear no resemblance to decisions that you make after you have children. Me + a guy in a cult? OK. Me + a guy in a cult and a child? No way.