Judge Forces Obese Man to Put His Kids Up for Adoption

fatA Canadian father is outraged and has vowed to go on a hunger strike after losing custody of his two special needs children. The two boys, 5 and 6 years old, will now be put up for adoption. And he believes the reason this happened is because he's too fat. The man, who used to weigh 525 pounds, now weighs 355 pounds. But he'll soon weigh a lot less, because he plans to stop eating until he gets his children back. "I am absolutely blown away by this decision, and I will not stand for it," said the fat dad.

The man, who lives in Ottawa and can't be named to protect his kids, says that his obesity was a big factor in the judge's decision. The judge ruled that the man's losing more weight would take up too much of his time, and he wouldn't also be able to parent two young special needs kids. I guess this wouldn't be so horrible if the children were going to go live with their mother, but they are being put up for adoption.

There is more going on here than just the man's weight. Also taken into the judge's account was the man's marijuana habit and his "violent" tendencies. However, even the judge acknowledged that the man was never violent with the children. The man also says he has been in counseling and taken anger management classes.

The judge heard much more than I did, so perhaps it was the right decision -- but putting two children up for adoption is serious and permanent. Children are going to love their father whether or not he's fat. Being obese certainly is a health risk. But it's about on par with smoking and children don't get taken away from parents who light up.

Would the kids pick up bad eating habits from dad? Possibly. But obesity and overeating is related to genetics, too. The kids could overeat wherever they end up. They may be even be more likely to overeat because of the trauma of being separated from their father.

As long as the parent loves their child and takes proper care of them, weight and other health issues shouldn't be a black-and-white determining factor in custody.

Do you think obesity should be a factor in child custody cases?


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nonmember avatar JH

Did you seriously refer to him as "the fat dad"? Wow, you're incredible...

nonmember avatar Stephanie.r.e

"said the fat dad." why would you write that? It was just plain rude. It goes a lot into showing the kind of "person" the article writer is.

nonmember avatar Stephanie.r.e

"said the fat dad." why would you write that? It was just plain rude. It goes a lot into showing the kind of "person" the article writer is.

MomoLS MomoLS

Hmmm...too few information to make a sound judgement on my end. 

nonmember avatar Shelly

So, according to the MAN...it was because, of his weight? Uh huh. Sure. There's more to this. I'm sorry, but a judge is not going to put up children for ADOPTION, because of some fat rolls.

Kimbyann Kimbyann

I wanna call bs. I'm sure the violence has something to do with it

annis... annismom10

I think the "special needs" aspect is the reason his obesity was called into play. A regular parent has a hard enough time, but with something like m.s. Or extreme autism, or whatever, and then make it two children. I simply don't think someone with mobility issues can parent a special child-or any child-properly. Then add weed and violence, it's a no-brainer to me. But why can't they live with mom?

RosaRosa RosaRosa

Are there any journalists who actually provide readers a complete story, instead of posting an outrageous headline and a few lame sentences with no real substance about the story they are suppose to be providing their readers.   Or did I somehow accidentally wind up at an 8th grader's blog with their current events report?  

nonmember avatar KateG

Um lydia? WTF. I know children who have been abused by their mother and stepfather, and their father is the most loving, caring, nurturing person. Thus, he has primary custody of them. So by your lack of intelligence, they must be being molested by their single father, the one who they love and worship and who fights tooth and nail to provide for them? While their mother and stepfather actually WERE molesting them, beating them with belts and extension cords, burning them with cigarettes, locking them in their bedrooms, etc...?

the4m... the4mutts

Wait wait wait, why was he in court to begin with, with his parenting skills being called into question?

Sorry dear author, CPS or whatever they have over there, won't send dad to court because DAD IS FAT.

You must have left out a lot of this story.

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