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Mom Who Beat Daughter for Kissing Needs Lesson on When Hitting Kids Is Actually Okay

by Ericka Sóuter on June 20, 2012 at 8:55 PM

beltSome punishments clearly cross the line. This is one of them. 

A woman allegedly beat her 7-year-old daughter -- leaving bruises and lacerations -- for kissing a kindergarten classmate. A New Jersey judge ruled that she was not within her parental rights for a punishment that went well beyond a "customary spanking."

In court documents, the mother defended the beating saying it was within her constitutional rights to use that type of punishment. And believe it or not, an earlier court decision agreed with her. The first judge to hear the case didn't think the whupping was actually excessive. Huh? That is a serious head scratcher. But it's easy to see why that decision was reversed.

Prosecutors said photos of the girl showed bruises on her arms, back, buttocks and thoughts. She also had cuts to her buttocks and right though likely caused by the belt buckle. If this mom reacts like this over a little kiss, I shudder to think of what would happen if the little girl were to cuss or hit. There must be some line when it comes to corporal punishment.

I know, I know. Just who is going to set the standard outlining when it's okay to hit. Well, until the International Association of Spanking Parents comes out with an official rule book, parents will just have to use a bit of common sense. Kiss - a scolding, if even that. Stealing - a spanking, if that's your preference. In any circumstance, a spanking that results is bruising and lacerations is over-the-top. Giving birth to children doesn't give you the right to torture them.

Do you think this mom was within her rights?

 

Images via InExtremiss/Flickr

Filed Under: behavior, discipline

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  • jalaz77
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    jalaz77

    June 20, 2012 at 9:03 PM

    Um no I do not, serious, what asshole would actually say she was in her rights??????


  • lisa
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    lisa

    June 20, 2012 at 9:31 PM
    She had bruises on her thoughts? Now that is a serious beating!
  • BusyM...
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    BusyMom7789

    June 20, 2012 at 9:38 PM

    I don't believe in spanking personally but if she did that to an adult she would've been arrested for assault.  If you believe spanking is an appropriate punishment you must be calm before you hand out the punishment.  I wouldn't want anyone to hit me so I couldn't bear to hit my children.


  • zombi...
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    zombiemommy916

    June 20, 2012 at 9:45 PM
    Exactly what kind of lesson does maiming your child with a belt enforce? This little girl will most likely rebel, lie and sneak around her dictator-mother...and I don't blame her...my mother was a positive-reinforcer and so tolerant...because of that, I made wise choices, told her EVERYTHING, and always felt safe being honest...I'm raising mine the same way! WITHOUT corporal punishment and fear-mongering...we should respect and honor our parents, never FEAR them!!! Shame on this "mother" and shame on that judge...
  • GlowW...
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    GlowWorm889

    June 20, 2012 at 10:02 PM

    Hitting a child is never okay. There is never a justification for that.


  • Trace...
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    Traceyssel

    June 20, 2012 at 10:03 PM

    sounds like my mom


  • Heath...
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    HeatherMazzone

    June 20, 2012 at 10:11 PM
    So what happened to the mom and girl? Did she go to jail? Lose custody?
  • rjooo
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    rjooo

    June 20, 2012 at 10:45 PM

    Oh, my...so distressing! to hear a mother "abusing" her child.  A simple, kiss? 

    ...IF the child ended up with bruises and lacerations, (aka photos), the child is being ABUSED!  I had a mother like this, so I know.  The belt, creates, a lot!  of damage, when mom is out-of-control, and her...mind.

    Please tell me this child  is in protective custody...away from this mother?


  • flood...
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    flood1971

    June 20, 2012 at 11:05 PM
    A kiss? When you are 7? What is more innocent than that? This mother needs therapy ASAP!
  • kcanela
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    kcanela

    June 20, 2012 at 11:12 PM
    NO. kids dont know what kissing even means yet. a good talk would of been better. ive tried spanking and it doesnt work if anything my husband and i felt so guilty and bad .never again.
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