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Mom Punches 10-Year-Old Daughter in the Face to Teach Her a Lesson

by Jeanne Sager on June 13, 2012 at 2:08 PM

punchI don't usually have a physical reaction to a news story. But you don't read that a mom was charged with assault and battery for allegedly punching her 10-year-old daughter in the face and not grab at your own nose, am I right? Literally, I grabbed my nose, folks.

The feeling that flooded through me was one of sympathetic pain, but there was something else mixed in there. Shame maybe? Humility?

The mom in Massachusetts is trying to use the old "I have the right to discipline my child" excuse. Yeah, if regular old discipline includes walking into the neighbor's house where your kid is playing, dragging her out by the hair, then dragging her up the stairs by her leg, and THEN punching her in the face.

But I'm willing to bet this is one of those rare points where the spanking parents and the non-spanking parents tend to come together and shake hands. Don't worry, I'm not looking to sound the war cry here and start another mommy war. You can review the thousands of debates on what happens when you put a hand on a kid's tuchus elsewhere.

But you'll have to cross rivers and mountains to find many parents who think it's appropriate to hit a kid in the face. I think we can all agree that an assault and battery charge is appropriate when a 10-year-old has blood gushing out of her nose. Unlike the hiney, which our kids sit on, the face is full of delicate parts, and it's the part of the body they present to the world.

There's just something about striking a child's face that seems at best disrespectful, at worst outright degrading. That old cliche "it was like a slap in the face" didn't come from nowhere, y'all.

So what do you think: is punching your kid in the face a police matter or just regular old discipline?

 

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Filed Under: behavior, discipline

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  • tbruc...
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    tbrucemom

    June 13, 2012 at 2:23 PM

    I admit that my kids were spanked and I feel that parents should be able to discipline their children without worrying about the authorities intervening.  But you under no circumstances strike a child in the face.  This is why parents are afraid to spank their kids when someone of them really need it. People need to understand the difference between spanking and abusing, hitting, punching, etc. When my children were spanked it was not done in anger, a mark was never left, they were never told to "pull down their pants". I guarantee they were not harmed and have grown up to be fine young adults (one is a Marine and the other is a senior in high school, ranked #5 in her class). Sometimes a swat is what's needed to get their attention and you could literally count on one hand the number of times they were spanked. That's because you only have to do it once or twice before they realize the consequences for misbehaving.


  • kaerae
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    kaerae

    June 13, 2012 at 2:26 PM
    So, the face is off limits, but a private part is okay? It's not appropriate to hit a child anywhere. Those outraged parents who "pop" thier kids on the butt are hypocrites if they think they're any better than this woman.
  • CPN322
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    CPN322

    June 13, 2012 at 2:43 PM

    I am NOT a fan of spanking, at all, but I definitely see the difference. This is a police matter and heck yea she should be charged.


  • Lord K
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    Lord K

    June 13, 2012 at 3:04 PM
    My mom would backhand me in the face whenever, which was often, acted like a brat, and telling me to stop wouldn't work. It worked too, shut me up and calmed me down real quick like. A punch is going too far though. It's because of dumb people like her that corporal punishment has been removed from disciplining children. And you see the impact it has, lots of children are obnoxious brats, it's getting where going out to any places that families go to is an unpleasant experience.
    Oh, it's a dead certainty that some particular posters here will call parents using physical discipline monsters and bluster out how their own kids are never hit and are just sooooooo perfect. Same old story but a brief visit to a grocery store or mall belies their statements.
  • RebeccaH
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    RebeccaH

    June 13, 2012 at 3:28 PM
    A slap on the rear does not hurt as much as a slap to the face. There is more tissue covering the rear than there is covering the face.
  • purpl...
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    purple_creeper

    June 13, 2012 at 3:30 PM
    Kaerae so i should go to jail for spanking my kid once on the hand for not listening and get the same time that someone who causes brain injury to a child from physical abuse??? Yeah its all the same.....smdh
  • Lord K
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    Lord K

    June 13, 2012 at 3:41 PM
    LOL purple_creeper, in today's climate, according to many people like kaerae, you should go to prison just for raising your voice, shaming, or even giving your kid a dirty look. Kids have to be coddled and made always to feel good! (sarcasm)
  • Christie
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    Christie

    June 13, 2012 at 4:25 PM
    @kaerae..."outraged parents who "pop" thier kids on the butt are hypocrites"... I agree those outraged parents who hit their children are a problem but good parents who spank their children are NOT outraged when they do it, or it is abuse. IMO spanking is a form of discipline mostly for toddlers who cannot understand reason. Spanking works for all of about 6 months then they don't care anymore (because it doesn't actually hurt)
  • SpiceMom
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    SpiceMom

    June 13, 2012 at 5:12 PM
    I've popped my now 6yr old on the bottome before. More to get her attention than anything. She cries more when I put her in her thinking spot! I'm NOT an abusive parent. I would never think to punch anyone in the face, much less a 10 yr old. ...and the fact that she dragged her up the stairs by her leg first is cause for concern...what in the world. I hope the girl doesn't have a cracked skull. This mom needs to have her child removed for good.
  • ashley
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    ashley

    June 13, 2012 at 6:29 PM
    Thats abuse and thats wrong. I'm 22 and a mother. I understand from the parents that do spank and the parents that dont spank, point of view. But the way i see, you can raise a child the best way you can in the end, they are gonna turn out the way they want too. When a toddler runs around knocking things off the shelf at a store an slaps you in the face and kicks you and scream, sometimes the best method is to spank, cause the time out method does not work on all toddlers. I always got spankings when i was a brat and did things that i knew were wrong and i turned out a great parent. Honestly, i didnt get enough spankings that i should have. Actually, I'm the 3rd child out of 4 kids and I was the main one who got the most spankings and the other 3 didnt and now we are all grown up and im the good one and the other 3 are wild partying type, that drinks, smokes and the youngest one doesnt even tend to her little baby, so in the end like i said you can raise them all you want but when they hit that adult age they are gonna grow up the way they want to.
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