Selfless Parents Allow 9-Year-Old to Stop Cancer Treatments (VIDEO)

Ryan Kennedy
Ryan Kennedy
If you asked most parents what they would do to spend more time with their dying child, the answer would be a resounding "anything!" Mom Kimberly Morris-Karp, however, is putting aside that fierce desire to hang on to every second of her 9-year-old son's life so that he can better live the time he has left.

Ryan Kennedy was 4 when he was diagnosed with a rare form of brain cancer. According to a story in The Oakland Press, for the past five years, he's undergone countless treatments, seven surgeries, and fought the "fight" against cancer. Recently, however, when doctors said there was another surgery that could perhaps prolong his life for several more months, he said no, and he said it vehemently.

Morris-Karp told CNN recently:

He just decided he didn't want to take any more pills, he didn't want any more surgery because it hurt. He just wanted to live the rest of his life.

She told the paper that the "selfish" part of her want to say no and make him do it, but, in the end, she and her husband gave in to his wishes.

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And we kept asking him over and over again. Once a week, I would ask him the same question: "Are you sure you’re OK with this? You don’t want any more treatment?" "Yup, I’m sure." We got to the final week, when we would have to schedule surgery, and he said, "I’m sure, Mom. I don’t want to discuss it anymore." It was a very sobering thing to sit there, and have to put aside what you want to do.

So they are doing what he wants to do -- vacation, swimming, and everything else to make the most of his remaining days as long as he's able. Doctors don't expect him to live past his 10th birthday -- May 24.

My heart breaks thinking of any family who has to make such a decision. Seeing your child in harm's way and being helpless to do anything about it is one of the worst feelings a parent can experience. Knowing there's something you can do to keep them with you -- even if for only a little while -- and not doing it has got to be even worse. But wow how brave and selfless they are for doing so.

I don't know if I could do the same. I hope I never have to find out.


Do you think you would make the same decision in a similar situation?


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MokaM... MokaMommy

I don't know. I hope that I could put my child's needs before my wants and be as selfless as these people. My problem is that I'm an eternal optimist and everyday he is alive is another day they could find a cure. I know it's far fetched but I would always wonder did I do everything I could to keep my child alive? If the treatment wouldn't cure him, and just keep him alive longer with a poor quality of life then maybe I could live with the decision. I hope I never have to make that choice.

onefo... onefootcutiepie

:*(  I can totally see why they did that....

nonmember avatar zonia

Sometimes as a parent you have to put aside what you want and do what is best for the child, regardless of other peoples' opinion. I can't say I would be able to do the same thing for my daughter in this exact situation where his life is depending on the treatment. We all live to do what is best for our children and sometimes the children are mature enough to know what is best for them.

Susie19 Susie19

This is so sad and I hope he enjoys the rest of his life to the fullest.  :'(

nonmember avatar Rabbi Y. K.

I would highly recommend that someone who plans to give up should read this article first "What's the Difference Between a Doctor and G-d?" by Rabbi Schochet regarding his father's brain cancer

bills... billsfan1104

I have two friends that lost their sons in the last year. I pray to God everyday that they suffer from the what ifs. Because they both did everything for their sons. They are angel moms now, and so will this mother when God decides to make her precious son an angel.

What a selfless family.

jessi... jessicasmom1

I hope he lives his life to the fullest way possible

LKRachel LKRachel

I have to say I'd do that same thing for any of my family members.  I'm sure it's different for every family and situation but in this one it sounds like he would've been in a tremendous amount of pain (that he's already been through before) in order to possibly get a few months.  I'll be praying that the time they have left as a family is beautiful and fruitful and a sweet time together.

nonmember avatar Shannon

This must be one of the hardest things his parents have ever done. I hope they make many wonderful, happy memories while their son is still alive. I would rather my child be able to enjoy the rest of his life, rather than spend it in the hospital up until the end.

Jadem... Jademom07

How long before the medical community goes to court to make him do it?  After a doctor checked his newborn out of the hospital and CPS was called, I wouldn't be surprised.

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