Since so many of the men and womenfolk who read The Stir are vehemently opposed to spanking, unlike me, I’m interested to see what the verdict is on public punishment.
Case in point: a picture recently posted on bestselling Christian chick lit author ReShonda Tate Billingsley’s Facebook page is going viral, showing her D.I.D. (that would be daughter in distress) clearly upset after what can only be described as yet another instance of bad decision-making on—what else?—social media. I swear these kids can’t get their Facebooking, Twittering, and Tumbling acts together, so I’m all for her creative form of discipline.
Girlfriend doesn’t look very happy, does she? Good. She’s not supposed to. It’s obvious from her grimace that she’s not enjoying it, which will hopefully make her think twice before being grown and taking pictures with liquor again. And, even at that, being goofy enough to post them on Facebook (though it’s a good thing she did, otherwise her mama may not have found out, at least as quickly as she did. Sometimes kids’ lack of decorum on social media is a parent’s best friend). The note says it all.
Public punishment is certainly nothing new, but maybe it’s a renewing trend in the land of parenting because just last week, before this young lady found herself in hot water, another teen girl in North Carolina met a similar fate. Her father, Donell Bryant, made his daughter, Quandria, stand on the shoulder of a highway and hold a sign that said, "I have a bad attitude. I disrespect people who try to help me," on one side and, "I do what I want, when I want, how I want," on the other. Oh, one other thing: dad timed it so she’d be pacing with her sign just as her fellow students were getting out of school. She had been suspended but Mr. Bryant didn’t think the punishment was severe enough and voila! He let a piece of poster board, a Sharpie, and a message take it from there.
Apparently it was effective. Local news got wind of the story and Quandria admitted she needed to change and planned to do better.
I have done something very similar with Girl Child. When she was in the heat of her tween angst last year, giving me problems at every turn and a stank attitude to boot, I went to AC Moore, bought a pin—the kind politicians wear when they’re campaigning—and wrote inside, “Ask me about my grades!” She wore it to church one Sunday and instead of being able to brag about her report card, like the folks asking her were expecting her to, she had to admit she was goofing off in class, not doing her homework, and wasting her mama’s money on Catholic school tuition.
We hung out at church a little longer that day. Coincidentally, of course. But by the time we loaded into the car, she had had more than enough of an earful about the mistake she was making doing crappy work in school.
Here are a few more kiddies who’ve been on the wrong end of their parents’ creativity and (hopefully) learned their lessons as a result. Do you think public punishments are effective?
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I think this is effective, unlike spanking. First of all no teenager should be spanked. No child should be spanked at any age. All this teaches is to solve problems with physical violence.
this is not emotionally abusive. gawd people like you are the ones who let their kids commit murder and then blame the person who was killed. grow up. these kids need to be taught a lesson. they need to learn that consequences will happen. good going mom and dad for being a GOOD parent and not letting your kids get away with bad behavior.
I think it works well and gets kids to relize what they did is wrong. Yes it may be quit upsetting for them but that is the same feeling they give their parents. I seen the video about the father who did this to his daughter because she swore and claimed her life was so hard for a few minor chores. He unloaded a pistol in her computer outside on the ground. I supported that aswell. Kids need to learn respect and wrong from right. In this world of technolgy, I mean come on kids have phones at age 8 or 9. It's often used against parents so why can't parents do the same.
I wish my Mom had done this to me when I was younger her talks about the dangers or alcohol and drugs and bad behavior just made me laugh after she was done all I learned was to hide it better if she had made me take responsibility for my actions to others who knew me I probably wouldn't have walked all over her all of my teenage years, it probably would have kept me from pushing my luck and getting picked up by police and getting into trouble with the law only until then did I start taking my behavior seriously but that should have started with Mom and Dad and trust me I would have forgiven her for a little tough love.
Ok. So in ideal family situations, I agree that this is effective. I don't exactly agree with the public humiliation via social media, because what you put up on the web is there for life. Since none of us know how far reaching this is, I would probably err on the side of caution and not allow my child's picture to be taken, if this is something I have to resort to in the future. I loved the pin and church!! That is a safe and effective way to get your point across. What I do know from my own experience, that sometimes things are not always what they seem. As a teenager, if my step-ma and father made me do something similar to promote their version of me, (which was very ugly and distorted) It probably would have broken me on many levels. I survived them simply because I believed in myself, and this punishment would have stripped me of that. I worry about parents with abuse and/or control issues taking this type of punishment and twisting it to their own ends.
I am ALL for parents holding their children accountable for their actions. Really, that's all they are doing, I don't understand this view some of you are taking that it is abuse. I think MORE parents should be doing things like this. I don't have a teenager yet, but I have already started holding my (almost) 5 year old accountable for her actions. If she does something that warrants a punishment like this, bet your ass I'm going to do!