Shannon Des Roches Rosa goes by Squid Rosenberg in the interwebs, where she writes about being a mom to three -- including Leo, who has autism. Her blog, Squidalicious, is equal parts hilarious and heartwarming. We love her so much, we know you will too.
To help us celebrate Mother's Day, here is one of her magical mom moments: when her son on the spectrum was just like everyone else's kid playing in the local park:
Leo has socializing opportunities aplenty -- around town, with all the people and kids who come to visit and swim and cook with us, during excursions. But those interactions are all heavily managed, to help him avoid sensory overstimulation, and so he won't pull a frustrated HULK SMASH on me, his sisters, or unsuspecting passersby. It breaks my heart to write this, but: he is not a free-range boy, not in scenarios where other children are running wild. It's too risky.
So when he asked to "go play, play with the kids" who were swarming the merry-go-round at Franklin Square playground today, my initial reaction was no. HELL NO. Not just because Leelo is unpredictable, but because -- as I suddenly realized -- I don't trust other children to be kind to him.
But he wanted to go. He was desperate to go, to be part of the puppy pileup of his-aged kids. He kept saying, "Want to play, want to play!" Ours is a boy who rarely asks to play with other kids. How could I say no?
I said yes.
Off he ran. He dove straight through the outer ring of children, and positioned himself in the center of the merry-go-round. I stood nearby, reminding myself to breathe, ready to spring, explain, apologize.
I never had to.
The other children accepted Leo at their center, without question. No one said anything, or gave him funny looks, not even as he his siren-like crow of delight grew louder as the kids spun faster, faster, faster.
Look at this ecstatic boy-in-the-middle:
I'll be watching this video on YouTube nonstop for the next 48 hours
Parents, if any of those children belong to you, please give them extra hugs from me. They're amazing.
Today was Leelo's first day of summer. I hope it has set the tone for the next two months.
Facebook comment from Jenn Edwardson May 15, 2012 at 1:52 PM
I am crying. I know how you feel. I have twins, both autistic. One higher functioning than the other. The point is: I know the playground experience. I know the feeling when it goes *right*. There is NOTHING like it.... I'll be watching right along with you.
Another lesson for us to trust our kids. Maybe your boy sensed something about those kids that you did not... I've worked with special needs folks, and I believe they're 'differently' functioning. More than once, I've seen amazing beauty through their eyes that I would have missed otherwise.
So thank you to your little guy for showing us that beauty. Kids are amazing, aren't they?
Nonmember comment from Christie May 15, 2012 at 2:11 PM
This video is beautiful and I am so glad your little one had this experience. I work very hard to teach DD to accept everyone....I was so proud of her the first time she meant an autistic child, she didn't even notice a difference.
I know exactly how you feel, ready for the unepected, ready to explain.....my ASD son is 14 and what you experienced is a gift for God :o) We need those every now and then! They give us the strength on those tough days.....having two sisters that are there for him help, but when he is on his own he asks me why, why am I weird.....I tell him God made him special, he is not weird just extra special :o)
I love it!! It just goes to show, it doesn't take much to teach your children to be kind and accepting of others but that could change someone else's life!
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Another lesson for us to trust our kids. Maybe your boy sensed something about those kids that you did not... I've worked with special needs folks, and I believe they're 'differently' functioning. More than once, I've seen amazing beauty through their eyes that I would have missed otherwise.
So thank you to your little guy for showing us that beauty. Kids are amazing, aren't they?
wow, i love stories like this!
I love it!! It just goes to show, it doesn't take much to teach your children to be kind and accepting of others but that could change someone else's life!
Thank you for posting something positive about ASD. This is awesome.