How Many Times Before You Give In?

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This general parenting question posted by Alma_C, jumped off the page at me. "How many times does your child ask you for something before you give in?" I had never pondered that one before.

In all honesty, I don't want to think of myself as a parent who simply "gives in." I want to say what I mean, and mean what I say. I want to not to be manipulated by whining and begging. When a mother says no, 99% of the time it's because that's what's best for her child. "No more cotton candy, absolutely not!" shouldn't be followed 5 minutes later by, "Okaaaay, just a little bit more." But show me the mom who isn't guilty of occasionally buckling to the pressure.

Alma_C mentioned a study that says a child asks about 9 times before a parent gives in. Interesting. I'd bet most of us are oblivious to the actual number of times a child asks, having learned the fine art of tuning out. But can you see how it might be worth noticing? How many times does your child ask for something before you say yes?

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