10-Year-Old Brought Gun to School to Protect Himself From Bullies

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bb gunI hate to say I saw this coming, but I did. A 10-year-old boy has been arrested for bringing a BB gun to elementary school. But this is not some hardened criminal, folks. This is a little boy who wears ankle braces and has been a victim of bullying because he's "different" from his peers.

It doesn't make up for what the child, who hails from the Cincinnati area of Ohio, did. But it certainly explains it, doesn't it? When kids feel the best recourse they have for being bullied is to fight fire with fire, we have scared little kids bringing guns to school.

Ever since my kid started mixing with kids I didn't pick for her (as in, went beyond the mom-planned playdate), we've had to deal with bullies. Whether it's a mean girl picking on her or another mom lamenting her child's battle with some butthead on the playground, I've heard enough stories to fit in a novella at least. And yes, my daughter is only 6.

Along with the tales of what exactly the bullies are doing are the parents -- me included -- wringing their hands over what to do to fight it. And a fair amount have settled for the old-fashioned "hit 'em back." I can't blame them, exactly. In my daughter's school, they've got all sorts of programs meant to fight bullying, and it's still going on. The gentle approach isn't working.

But what are we teaching our kids when we actually suggest they sink to the level of the little scumbuckets who are making their lives a living hell? For every story of a bully who learned his lesson "but good," there is a kid like this 10-year-old in Ohio, who brought his BB gun to school not to shoot anyone but merely to "intimidate" the kids who have intimidated him for so long. He admitted to cops that his uncle broke off the orange tip of the gun meant to signal how harmless it was, to make it easier to scare the other kids.

He has been a victim for so long that it would be easy to give him a pass. As a mom of a kid who has been bullied, my heart breaks for him. But the fact is, what he did was seriously wrong, and the victim mentality doesn't really make up for it. He has become the aggressor. He has become his own worst nightmare. And now he's headed to juvenile court to boot.

This is what happens when we go for the obvious answer to bullying. We make our kids into bullies themselves.

What do you think should happen to this little boy for what he did?

 

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kjbug... kjbugsmom1517

So the bullies get off scott free cuz he brought a bb gun to school? I dont think what he did was right but he was provoked and the other kids should be punished as well. Really sad it came to this and that he will most likely be expelled for awhile.

Gia Volterra De Saulnier

I would like to know if the Parents are involved here...I mean, wouldn't they BE responsible for having the gun in the house in the first place?  Schools should have a NO bullying policy period.bad

Gypsy Dreads

You mean hails from Chardon, Ohio which is in the Cleveland area? Are you talking about the Chardon High School shooting?

Ravyn Guyton Wiseman

see this is why im having such a hard time with what happened to my son on April 2 autism day he is autistic and they beat my son on the bus so bad he had adominal trama and a melt down now he cant go back to school and is mentally scared but im just supposed to sit back and that its ok i hate this !!

nonmember avatar Emily

People have the right to have guns in their homes. However they are also responsible for their sons actions. But on the flip side of that we have these bullies who I think should also be held accountable. In essence what they did was just as bad as bringing a gun to school, their method just took longer. The whole point is intimidation, they intimidated him until he felt he had no other options, and he had every intention of intimidating them back. I think we are too lax, we make excuses for our kids (and I admit I am guilty of this too). There are no easy answers. But harsher penalties should be in place, so that kids don't feel like they have no other options

Joan Neville Buffa

the parents are to blame for not doing something about and so is the school administration.  so what if the kid might have been embarassed by his parents and the school intervening.  now the kid is in trouble and the bullies will be relentless.

SueMN... SueMNanaMama

My autistic kid has a Red Ryder BB gun.  You know, like in "A Christmas Story."  In 4-H he will learn rifle safety next year.  He will know NOT to take a gun to school, period.  I don't like guns.  I hate them, in fact.  But better to teach gun safety and appropriateness than to have the kid just up and take one to school.  Bullying has always been there.  It will always be there.  Kids need to be able to address it on their own as long as they can, and then the school needs to step up and stop it.  My kid was bullied, and I'm not happy about how the school handled it, because my kid lost his recess (the other kid was suspended, big whoop, right?).  But the bullying DID stop, as far as I can tell...

Mumma Bear Kilpela

The school should seriously track down the little monsters that pushed this boy to this point and have a conference with them and their parents, stat. That boy is going to have to face the music for his own actions anyway, but the only reason children will bully each other is because they think they can get away with it...I was bullied and my husband was bullied, the difference is my husband kept his peace and it ate him alive, while I was the mouthy one that got back in their faces. Yes, sometimes it ended up in physical altercations, but by the time I was in High School, I had no bullying problems, and my husband still did. I'm the bad mommy that feels like when we take away our children's ability to defend themselves, and not implement a strong course of action to take care of these bullying issues, you are either going to have two outcomes, some one's going to hurt/kill themselves, or some one's going to shoot up a school. It is a parent's responsibility to teach their kids to have respect for others. The school better be dropping a line to me if either of my darlings want to be a bully, we will fix that right quick.

Shianne Giles

it's the schools fault for not taking action in the matter cause if they did something the boy wouldn't have been pushed so far, now the boy is going to get in trouble when the bullies don't have to pay for their actions, doesn't make any damn since these days the way the school handles things only when something is seriously wrong will they do something makes me sick


 

Kristoffer Sevillena Dis

Obviously, the school and administration failed to help him, and EVERYONE has a right to defend themselves if anyone bullies them or threatens them physically. The victim is NOT at fault, because NO ONE came to his aid. No child should be forced to put up with torment, and the victim SHOULD NOT be called a bully himself merely because he wanted to stop being a victim. The adults failed him, and they should go to prison.

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