There's Nothing Wrong With Little Girls Wearing Bikinis

Rant 133

little girl in a bikini at the fountainThere is a lot of controversy over whether little girls should be allowed to wear bikinis, or if bikinis should even be made for little girls, period. But for me, it has never been much of a heated topic.

I have two little girls, ages 4 and 6, and I have put them in bikinis since they were babies. We are not a bikini exclusive household, mind you. They also wear one-piece bathing suits and I also only buy the girls age appropriate and size appropriate bikinis. But still, they do wear two-piece suits. What's the big deal?

There is nothing sexual or inappropriate about a child wearing a bikini. There are no private parts that fall out of the bikini. There are no curves to catch the eyes of strange men.

I understand the claim that it may be alluring to pedophiles. But isn't this sort of like blaming a rape victim for wearing something too provocative? Let's blame the pedophile for being a pervert. Honestly, if someone is a pedophile, I'm not sure that what a child is wearing or not wearing has any bearing on the sick thoughts that might enter his mind. Just the thought of it makes me vomit a little bit in my mouth.

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Aside from an unfilled triangle top bikini being a bit illogical for a baby given the sun exposure, there is no harm as long as you use SPF 50 and slather kids up well.

Bikini bottoms can be pulled down easily, which, to some moms, means something unspeakably disgusting. To them I ask, why are you leaving these children unattended by water and strangers?

The fact is, it is every individual mom’s choice as to whether bikinis are acceptable or not. It is not open for discussion or scrutiny by strangers. A child's bathing suit shouldn't give people the right to judge another parent.

I am not putting my little girls in bikinis that are two sizes too small and it is not as if their genital areas are hanging out. There is no padding in the bikini top. So, there is no problem.

A two-piece tankini with full bottoms provides just as much coverage as a traditional one-piece with easier access for frequent preschooler potty trips. I am not putting my girls in hair and makeup and parading them around on stage like prized cattle. They swim with parents close by. What's the issue?

What are your thoughts on little girls wearing bikinis? Are you pro or con on the topic? Why?


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nonmember avatar Emme

I don't know what the big fuss is. I agree with you. If we restricted ourselves based on the depravity of others, there's probably a lot we'd have to stop doing.

I don't see a problem with little girls wearing bikinis. It can be cute. If they were padded, though, then there'd be a problem.

Lynette Lynette

I want DD to wear more modest suits.  So we do one pieces and if I ever find a tanki that actully fits my skinny DD I will get her one of those.  When she is older the topic will probably come up and we will revisit it.  Honestly though I don't care what other moms choose to buy for their kids swimwear.  It's their kids they can choose to have them go topless for all I care.

purpl... purple_creeper

Im very open minded about alot of things. But no i would not let my toddler wear a bikini. Its not appropriate.

claud... claudiaj1218

i think that little girls wearing bikinis is cute, but once they reach a certain age, say like, 8-10, then it's no longer cute.  once they start getting curves, it becomes a little disgusting.  they can start wearing them again when they are older and can make wise decisions for themselves and know that they also need to be careful about what they wear.

nonmember avatar qwerty

@claudiaj - I agree with you in the ages. The problem, though, is that then you have to tell a 10-year-old who is used to bikinis that she all of a sudden can no longer wear them, which I think is sending a message that she's somehow now shameful, or that puberty is dirty. So I think you should either let them, or not, but changing the rules at 8-10 does more harm.

TKsMo... TKsMommie

a bikini, nope.  But a tankini or a two piece is only smart for girls who are potty training.  My daughter's is a cute t-shirt/ boy shorts bathing suit, that she picked out herself and loves!!  There is a difference between a bikini and a two piece bathing suit.  But anything that goes abover her belly button is a no go here.  

smili... smilinmimi

My girls (8 and 5) have both bikinis and one pieces. I prefer my 5 year old to wear bikinis because, as mentioned, it's easier for her to go to the bathroom. We've traveled all over the world since our oldest was 18 months, and the only time anyone has said anything negative to us is in the US. It's not a big deal in other countries, at least in my experience.

Sirena Robinson

Personally, I won't let my daughter wear a bikini. I remember having one as a child and only being able to wear it in our pool at home. I think that we live in a world where little girls grow up way too fast and they are sexualized at way too young an age. Like it or not, putting little girls in bikinis is putting more of their bodies on display than is necessary for the activity, and that, while not wrong, does give me pause. I want my daughter to be a little girl as long as possible, and nothing about her should be sexual when she's YEARS away from even knowing what that means.

Maias... MaiasMommy619

I don't think they are appropriate for any age.

Todd Vrancic

Our kids are very fair-skinned and regardless of the type of suit they wore, they all wore a t-shirt over it.  They learned the wisdom of this when they went on vacation with their grandmother and came back sunburned badly because they "forgot" to put on the t-shirt.  She did not neglect them, the sunblock just wasn't adequate because they are still so very fair-skinned.

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