Jenna Lyons Divorce Shocker Does Not Make Her a 'Bad Mom'

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Last April, J.Crew's president and creative director Jenna Lyons made waves when she painted her 5-year-old son's nails pink. Now, rumor has it (according to the New York Post) she is getting a divorce and has left Vincent Mazeau, her husband of nine years, for a woman. Is it wrong that this makes me love her even more?

Any mom who chooses to model an authentic life for her child is doing right by him or her. And in this case, that is exactly what Lyons is doing. Of course, her husband may feel otherwise.

The reports are that their divorce is getting messy over money and custody of their son Beckett, but Lyons, as always, is being who she is, and if that means loving a woman, then so be it.

It's never easy to comment on a divorce, and since I am not in their marriage, it's impossible to know whether they fell out of love or she simply left him for another person. But what is clear is that many people will judge her decision, just like they did her decision to paint her son's toes pink.

It isn't what "good moms" do. They don't leave their husbands and choose to spend their days with another woman. But Lyons has proven before that there are no "rules" for what a good mom does. She colors outside the lines and thinks outside the box, and it has proven very, very lucrative and successful for her over the years.

Any divorce is painful for the child and this one is surely no different. But it doesn't matter whether his mother left for a man or no one at all. No matter what, this would affect her child.

As he gets older, though, he may grow to understand -- or at least respect -- his mother's decision to be true to who she is. And even if he never gets it, his mother is clearly over the moon for him (as is his father). Sad and messy as it is right now, he will be OK in the long run. I am sure of it.

In the end, it's none of our business. She makes fantastic clothing and sells a lifestyle we all covet. But somehow her personal life is shoved in our faces, and as such, we think we can judge. Well, we can't. And if Lyons made the right decision for her happiness, then surely she made the right decision for the happiness of each member of her family as well.

Do you think this is wrong?

 

Image via J.Crew

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Chari... Charizma77

I never heard of her before and don't know enough of what's going on but from what you wrote nothing seems wrong about it.

nonmember avatar Shelly

"Good" moms don't have babies in sham marriages, and live a lie...leaving her family as collateral damage. Of course, I think it's wrong. IT IS.

alisa... alisabethjaimes

Shelly, consider maybe she is bisexual? Maybe she fell out of love with her husband and met a woman.

Nraw2011 Nraw2011

Do we think what is wrong?  That she is getting a divorce or that she left him for a woman? No, no to both.  It's none of our business.  

Nraw2011 Nraw2011

@ Shelly  You're assuming that her marriage was a sham.  Or did you climb into bed with them every night?  

Michelle Swift Wardwell

Many people, men and woman, get married before they either fully accept or realize they are gay. It doesn't happen now as much as it did in our parents and grandparents etc etc era's, each gets slightly more accepting. This doesn't make her a bad mom, woman or wife. My grandmother is a wonderful example of this, she was told all her life she'd be nothing without a husband and children, she shouldn't have had either. She wanted to be a professional and she's probably gay too but at 90 years old and suffering from dementia, who knows. This woman and my grandmother probably did love their husbands, they made them mothers, however, can you ever truly be happy if you don't accept who you are?

Melis... Melissa042807

I think divorce sucks for kids no matter what. Good mom, bad mom, gay, straight, it still sucks for the kids. 

nonmember avatar Liz

@Michelle- you do make a very valid point that she might not have fully accepted her sexuality when she married her soon to be ex husband. But I would like to point out that she could be bisexual and already fully in acceptance of her sexuality, and that she just fell in love with a woman this time. Either way, she and her husband need to make this as least messy as possible for their son, he matters more than anything else.

mustb... mustbeGRACE

Maybe she tried to paint her husbands nails and he just wasn't having it........................

zandh... zandhmom2

The only part that I have a problem with is that she started another relationship while in her marriage.  I think you should always finish one before starting another one.

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