Trick or Treating Thank You Notes Are a Sign Parents Need to Lighten Up

Big Kid 75

trick or treatingWhat is with the attack on Halloween this year? We've got people tricking kids with Bibles. We've got people refusing to give out candy, and those "reverse trick or treaters." And now there's another group trying to make kids carry an extra bag full of thank-you cards along with that plastic pumpkin trick-or-treat bucket. Way to suck the fun out of it!

Golly Gee-pers' Most Polite Trick or Treater Campaign sounds like something every mom and dad would get behind in theory. Nobody wants to be raising the neighborhood's token butthead. And the cards are free (well, technically, you have to print them yourself). But whatever happened to the days when making sure my kid didn't egg your front stoop was enough?

My kid says thank you at every single doorstep. It's an iron clad rule in our house. The same goes for birthday presents, Christmas, the whole nine. I make sure she doesn't trample in the flowers. I don't let her terrorize your cats. I even ensure she leaves the buzzer alone on the houses where the family appears to be laying low for the holiday.

In my book, that's enough. It's a fun-size Snickers, folks. She owes you respect and courtesy, not the name of her first born.

Besides, not to get all philosophical, but a big part of the joy of giving -- especially candy on Halloween -- is in seeing the faces of little Spider-Mans and princesses light up. I love a thank you, and about 9 times out of 10 in my rural neighborhood, we get it. I've even gotten a few hugs over the years.

But that's not WHY I give out candy. I do it because it's part of living in a neighborhood full of kids and raising one here to boot. If I wanted to be a scrooge, I'd just turn my porch light off and cuddle up on the couch with the Blu-Ray player and the latest season of True Blood.

Do you think thank-you notes for everyone who gives your kid a miniature candy bar is a little over the top?

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jaxmadre jaxmadre

I think a verbal "thank you" is sufficient, so long as the kid actually does it. My thought is someone, somehow is making a profit off thank you cards.


I am a southern girl and a stickler for thank you protocol- this is totally ridiculous. Over the top, I say!

nonmember avatar me

um, I'd be pissed if every kid that came to my door gave me a thank you note. talk about wasteful.

nonmember avatar Jice

Honestly sounds like a waste of paper. Cute idea in theory but not necessary and not great for the environment. Verbal thankyous are better and then you know they're coming from the kid instead of the parent forcing the kid to make a bunch of cards.

arlis... arliss123

For birthdays and Christmas, thank yous are a must. For Halloween? That's just silly.

Doomy234 Doomy234

A verbal thank you is enough. I make sure the kids say thanks by saying it myself as well, some kids can be shy or in a rush to get more candy. Mine is both, so I have to give him a little reminder.

And as for the kids that come to my house, their faces light up with the two handfuls of candy we give out and always yell out a huge "Thanks!"

meatb... meatball77

What a waste of paper

cocob... cocobeannns

^ What they all said.

Lucre... LucretiaMcEvil

I hope I get one this year! That would crack me up.

Seriously, that's ridiculous. It's too easy to just hand someone a card. Actually telling them "Thank You" is more meaningful when we're dealing with Snickers Minis.

On a side note, wouldn't the card cost about as much to hand out as a Snickers Mini?

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