Trick or Treating Thank You Notes Are a Sign Parents Need to Lighten Up

Big Kid 75

trick or treatingWhat is with the attack on Halloween this year? We've got people tricking kids with Bibles. We've got people refusing to give out candy, and those "reverse trick or treaters." And now there's another group trying to make kids carry an extra bag full of thank-you cards along with that plastic pumpkin trick-or-treat bucket. Way to suck the fun out of it!

Golly Gee-pers' Most Polite Trick or Treater Campaign sounds like something every mom and dad would get behind in theory. Nobody wants to be raising the neighborhood's token butthead. And the cards are free (well, technically, you have to print them yourself). But whatever happened to the days when making sure my kid didn't egg your front stoop was enough?

My kid says thank you at every single doorstep. It's an iron clad rule in our house. The same goes for birthday presents, Christmas, the whole nine. I make sure she doesn't trample in the flowers. I don't let her terrorize your cats. I even ensure she leaves the buzzer alone on the houses where the family appears to be laying low for the holiday.

In my book, that's enough. It's a fun-size Snickers, folks. She owes you respect and courtesy, not the name of her first born.

Besides, not to get all philosophical, but a big part of the joy of giving -- especially candy on Halloween -- is in seeing the faces of little Spider-Mans and princesses light up. I love a thank you, and about 9 times out of 10 in my rural neighborhood, we get it. I've even gotten a few hugs over the years.

But that's not WHY I give out candy. I do it because it's part of living in a neighborhood full of kids and raising one here to boot. If I wanted to be a scrooge, I'd just turn my porch light off and cuddle up on the couch with the Blu-Ray player and the latest season of True Blood.

Do you think thank-you notes for everyone who gives your kid a miniature candy bar is a little over the top?


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