Guilt is something we all feel even if we don't admit it. We feel guilty for working and not being with our children 24/7. We feel guilty for not working and failing to bring home a paycheck or keep up our careers. We feel guilty for our lack of sex drive or our overweening one and we feel guilty for not cooking a homemade meal every night. This guilt thing is killing us mamas.
We need to stop it. Now.
Somehow in our culture, we have taught moms to feel guilty about everything and it's destroying us. Kim Ruch-Alegant is a lawyer turned healer who has a whole website devoted to mom guilt. She sends weekly lessons and "tapping sessions" to help end the guilt once and for all.
Acknowledging the negative feelings and then using positive affirmations is the key to banishing guilty thoughts. You have to love and accept yourself, even your guilty self, in order to let the feelings go.
Sounds good, right? But it isn't so easy. Personally, I feel guilty for everything. I feel guilty for sending my daughter to an after-school program when I don't necessarily have to. I feel guilty for using childcare to take care of personal needs like hair and nail appointments. I feel guilty for going out at night when they are asleep or running when they are awake.
If they watch TV, I have guilt, and if I skip the park and go to the grocery store? Then more. It's maddening and is the best way to be miserable in parenting.
Lucky for me, Rush-Alegant has offered to allow me access to her program to try it out. Over the next few weeks, I will do so and report back.
If I am able to rid myself of mommy guilt, I will be the happiest mom ever. Because honestly, I love almost every other part of motherhood. But the guilt is awful.
Do you ever feel mommy guilt?