My Kid's Homework Is Challenging ... for ME!

Big Kid 17

Now, I love me some school. As a classic over-achiever, I was always thrilled by the shiny back-to-school stuff displayed in aisle after ever-loving aisle in the store somewhere starting in July (now it's like May or something). It gets my teeth chompy for some brand-new notebooks, unused pens, and unsharpened pencils. Hell, I'd be thrilled to take tests had I not already graduated.

There's nothing more awesome than school.

Except, of course, the homework.

I was always downright giddy that first beloved day of school, my freshly-cleaned backpack stuffed full of supplies, my wee heart thrilled by the idea of getting to fill my empty day planner with brand! new! assignments!

Okay, you guys can stop laughing at my nerdliness now.

*taps foot*

I'm waiting.

*checks watch*

Okay, done?  


It should be painfully evident now that school was my BFF. Homework, I even loved. Brand-new blank pages to be painstakingly filled in and graded with (hopefully) an A++ because, well, I'd spend hours making certain every answer was correct. Or, at least, as correct as I could make it.

So when my eldest began to receive homework assignments, I was blissfully happy. It was reclaiming a part of my youth that I'd so treasured. Kind of like Easy-Bake Ovens.

Imagine my surprise when fifth grade rolled around. Suddenly, between the two instruments he plays for 20 minutes each, the mandatory 30-minute per night reading assignments, plus assorted homework sheets sounded like ... a lot. Even for me, the nerdliest of geeks, I was fairly surprised by the time commitment that homework now involves. And I'm fully aware that it's about to get worse.

I'm fortunate that my son doesn't much mind the homework (read: most days) and happily chirps out his violin followed by his trumpet before tucking into a book, but I'm nervous because soon, my second child will begin school. Shortly followed by my daughter.

By the time all three of them are in school, I'm going to have to hire someone else just to help me help them with their homework.

Or, perhaps, just drink more vodka. Me, I mean, not them. Because everyone knows you can't do homework drunk.

How do you balance helping your kid with homework along with everything else?

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PonyC... PonyChaser

Let him do his homework. He sits at the kitchen table working on it, and I do something else productive and quiet - pay bills, write for my blog, even read a book. Some nights I'm making dinner. But I'm still there and available if he has a question or needs a clarification on something, but I don't "help" him with it.

I also move the reading around. We spend a lot of time in the car because we live in a rural area. So there are plenty of books in there - my son is fortunate that reading in the car doesn't upset his stomach. It frees up home-time for other important things, like play time.

Aubrey Sudduth Slininger

Just wait til your other 2 start with homework and other activities. My son plays trumpet too.  And he is in the local Boys Choir.  And my daughter is in Girl Scouts and my other son wants to join Drama Club, or stage crew or something.  I can't keep everything straight most days. I have kids in 5 different places doing homework, practicing songs either singing or on the trumpet. It is CRAZY! 

Lucid... Lucidlotus

I have a two year old so I don't have to worry about homework yet.  My plan for the future is to a)get smarter, b)refer him to the sweet lady internet or c)enroll him in a hippie school that doesn't believe in homework or grades or formal education of any kind.

Crystal Turnau

So, I used to ask for MORE homework. I was THAT kid.  I don't understand why my kid hates it so much.  I don't get it at allllll.  Especially since he's good at it!  WTH.


It isn't easy sometimes. My husband pretty much refuses to stay on top of my son's school work so along with everything else, that is ALSO my responsibility.

MomX3... MomX3ThatsMe

We are not at this point yet!  But I hope to continue my role as SAHM to make sure there is time to help them!

jessi... jessicasmom1

I let DD do her homework then I go over it and help if she ha trouble or something is not done right then explain it to her to help it make sence.

JHanc968 JHanc968

They get too much these days!

mille... millerbunch

sometimes it's ridiculous, but right now they do not bring home much and they sit down for less than 30 min to do it.. i'm there if they have a question, nothing needs to be balanced for it..

Bmat Bmat

The kids know they can come to me if they just can't figure out something. Sometimes I can even help.

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