An Eye-Opening Look at How Kids Learn From Everything We Do (VIDEO)

Sometimes one of the hardest things as a parent is knowing they learn from every single little thing you say and do ... or don't say or don't do. I, personally, put a lot of focus on trying very hard not to be a hypocrite. I don't hit because I don't want my kids to hit others and I wouldn't pull their hair in a lesson to show them not to. Especially with my 7-year-old, it's instantly clear that when I am frustrated and quick to anger, he responds in kind.

But what about the little things? The much smaller things that you don't intend on being lessons? I came across a video that actually made me a cry a little. It really shows how even your most casual, or volatile, behaviors are being watched and copied by children. Seeing this video is like a lesson in becoming a better role model for our kids.

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As every mother knows when you hear something come out of your child's mouth that you know you said, it can take seeing nasty behavior from innocent children to really see how negative of an influence we can be, in big or little ways. I think this video demonstrates that.

There's a famous quote I love: "Be the change you want to see in the world." This applies to our children as well. If you want your children to be pleasant people who smile at waiters and say please and thank you, the place to start isn't berating them when they don't, but demonstrating it yourself, every single time.

Of course, there are some things adults can do that kids can't. For example, driving. But when those arise, a simple explanation, rather than just an arbitrary and demeaning response of "because I'm big and you're small," can help a lot. Give them a reason why, even if it's simplified to be age-appropriate. But most importantly, we all have to remember that even when we're just flicking that piece of trash on the ground, children can remember and learn from that. And that's not something we want to teach.

Do you think about the little things your kids emulate as much as you think about the behaviors you consciously choose to model?


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