Best Tooth Fairy Letter Ever Makes Me Re-Think the Lies

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tooth fairy letterEverybody's cracking up about "The Best Letter Ever Written to the Tooth Fairy," and with good reason: You owe me $1.00. Not to be hard but I need money. It made me laugh, too, but then it made me wonder ... I didn't and don't push the whole tooth fairy myth with my kids. My motto with creatures of her ilk, including Santa and the Easter Bunny, is to neither confirm nor deny. But are my kids missing out on some serious childhood magic?

I wouldn't know. My mother broke the cold, cruel news to me about Kris Kringle and his kind when I was 2 -- she didn't want me to feel betrayed when I eventually found out the truth, she told me later. (Apparently she took it pretty hard when she was a kid.)

So I never experienced the giddy anticipation of tucking a tooth under my pillow and going to sleep wondering how much cold, hard cash would be in its place come morning. When I lost a tooth, I would tell my mother, and she would say, "Okay, I'll put a quarter under your pillow while you're sleeping. Or do you just want me to give it to you now?"

Christmas was similarly low on suspense, particularly because my mom didn't try very hard to hide my presents. Not only did I know they were coming from her, I also knew they were -- oops! Right there, in her closet, unwrapped. Oh well.

I'm not trying to be all down on my mom or anything -- I actually get what she was trying to do, which was to build our relationship on a foundation of trust. But at the time, I just kind of felt like the other kids, deluded or not, were having a lot more fun.

So why am I not one of those moms who goes out of her way to fuel her kids' belief in fairy tales? Why don't I leave a sprinkling of glitter (fairy dust!) on their pillows when I'm doing the dental dollar exchange? I guess because I don't want to influence what they believe either way. If they need to believe the fairy tale, I feel like they will, and they'll stop when they're ready.

At least I actually hide my kids' presents.

Do your kids believe in the tooth fairy?


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nonmember avatar Shelly

I always laugh at people who think they are lying to their children. If your kid believe in knights and castles, will you tell them they aren't real. No, you'll let them believe. What about an imaginary friend? "No honey...no such thing. Stop believing." Please. We allow are children to believe things, because children are SUPPOSED to believe in things. Parents who are like your mom, make me sad. A little angry, actually. They probably don't let their children have any kind of imagination. It's sad. What downers! Wow...rant over! Yes, my kid will believe in the tooth fairy. And he will enjoy childhood a whole lot more then kids who don't.

KTMOM KTMOM

haha! too funny! My son does not believe anymore. I think he did for a minute. lol

ethan... ethans_momma06

No... he doesn't believe in fairies! He came to that conclusion on his own.

eeyore13 eeyore13

We never had the the tooth fairy growing up and my kids aren't getting it either.  I remember being jealous of my friend who got a dollar a tooth.  First, of all there just isn't money for that.  Second, it really bugs me when kids expect it.  A friend of mine gives her kid $7.00 a tooth!  We just celebrate by taking a picture which makes my little hams happy.

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

Knights and castles are real, what a pointless comparison. Imaginary friends are real too for that matter because kids know they're just pretend. Mostly they're a way for kids to process things, they can discuss stuff with their imaginary friend and figure stuff out. Santa Claus on the other hand is not real. I see no reason to tell my kid that a fat dude shoved his presents down the chimney when he's just excited knowing they come from me. Knowing where they come from allows him to show gratitude too.



I find it far sadder that anyone would feel they can't give their kids a great childhood without making up stories. There is plenty of wonder in the world for anyone who looks for it and no need to make things up. My kid knows the difference between reality and fantasy, truth and myth, and he's well rounded. He also has a stellar imagination. He's sitting on the floor beside me making a menu for a restaurant he's constructed in the dining room and he's making up all kinds of food then drawing pictures and writing their names. Oh, he's done and I need to go to the restaurant now. I think I'll have the pastanta soup, it sound delicious.

nonmember avatar Char

Hi mom! You know I like to know everything.

nonmember avatar Jessica Miller

Yeah my kids did believe and i think did a little longer for moneys sake. I did however also get mad when a certain friends child would brag about twenty a tooth. My tooth fairy was reasonable and cheap.

nonmember avatar Shelly

I was referring to knights and castled from far-away lands, such as fairy tales. To be clear. I think we should allow kids to CHOOSE what they believe in, instead of indoctrinating them from the beginning. I only assume my son will believe in the tooth fairy, because he has heard about it. If he chooses not to, that's fine. I leave it up to him, instead of making that decision for him. I approach Santa the same way. Are you going to tell you child, the restaurant isn't real? Because, it's not. Restaurants are real, but his is a figment of acting out his imagination. Why are lying to him, and telling him what he has created isn't real? Why do you pick and choose?

MynTop MynTop

I think the saddest part is all of these mothers judging the other mothers for what they choose do to with their own kid.  My kids believe in Santa, Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny and all, but does that mean that I am miss Judgy Jane when I find out another mother chooses not to have her kids believe?  NO, it's not really any of my business.  The only thing that really annoys me is when parents don't consider that not everyone chooses to not let their kids believe...I think it only respectful to teach non believing kids not to say anything about it not being real to kids who choose to believe.

allie... alliesmom112

My dd does believe. I go all out with the tooth fairy, santa, easter bunny, all of it. I want her to be ecited about it and encourage her iimagination. I remember growing up my parents did the same thing and I didn't feel betrayed I felt blessed that they cared enough to make such a big deal of it

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