'Birds & Bees' Are Not Easy for Anyone (Even Famous People)! (VIDEO)


Talking with kids about sex, even for highly educated, very intelligent, enlightened, open-minded, liberal people, is never easy. This is a fact that is illustrated beautifully by comedian and former Saturday Night Live star Julia Sweeney in a monologue on Minnesota Public Radio.

When children ask hard questions, we are supposed to answer only the question asked, as Sweeney explains in the monologue, but with certain questions, you may just end up on the end of the path you never wanted to start in the first place.

See her hilarious take on the "birds and the bees" talk below:

It should NOT be this complicated, right? I mean, I'm a cool mom who writes about sex and death without flinching. I have no secrets and have been open about everything since birth, and yet when I was confronted by a dead bird and my daughter's innocent questions, I wanted to run screaming.

I don't want to have to tell her anything about death, so I can imagine that once she starts in on sex questions, I will feel the same. I guess we all just do the best we can, and in the meantime, it's awfully nice to know that we aren't alone. 

Thanks to Julia Sweeney for reminding me of that. Even though I wish I could put it off, it's nice to know I will at least be able to laugh about it once I inevitably flub it all.

How did you explain sex to your kids?


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nonmember avatar Mike M

Sasha, what's wrong with death? If you're skeptical that life continues beyond death and feel this may scare her then one thing you might do is educate yourself on the possibility that it does continue beyond death. (I personally was skeptical until 5 years ago, and when I wanted to know for myself whether or not ghosts are real I went looking for ghost stories online so I could see what commonalities [if any] exist between the stories from different people. If people are just making up stories to scare others then it isn't likely that there'd be any or many mundane details that are common among a good percentage of the stories.) "Obiwan's UFO-Free Paranormal Page" is a site that has about 1,700 stories of ghosts and such (the second link when doing a web search for "obiwan's true ghost stories" gets you right to the main page for the stories), and after reading 300 stories I was quite convinced that ghosts are real and that it's very likely that life continues beyond death. Just because scientists don't have much evidence that supports life after death (though there is a fair amount of evidence of near-death-experiences and reincarnation, but it seems to me that as no scientists believe that anyone has come up with a good scientific hypothesis that explains life after death most scientists prefer to *assume* that life doesn't continue beyond death (scientists that are wise don't make such assumptions - they just say that we don't know as we don't have enough evidence yet).

nonmember avatar Mike M

And the age at which children want to simply hear the truth (as opposed to being given lies or information that sidesteps the issue) from their parents probably varies for each kid, but I can remember things from as early as age 4, and for me I started becoming much more curious about the world around me at about 5 or 6. From my experience as a kid (namely around age 7-9) I didn't understand why adults felt that certain issues (such as sex and nudity; I never though much about death aside from wishing that I had more control over my own life/existence - such as being able to turn my life on and off at will as a means of escape) weren't to be discussed with kids. Ignorance does not make one wise - knowledge does, and I took it as quite an insult that adults felt that ignorance was the best thing for me with regard to certain subjects. As such, I would have been much happier if adults showed me their respect by being willing to teach me about everything that's important in life rather than just the things that they don't have hang-ups over. (Also, I believe that kids are likely to get over any hang-ups they may have much faster than adults do.)

nonmember avatar Mike M

Lastly, I don't have kids (or want any), but if I did I would treat them as mature people and would start teaching them about sex (and evolution - which is closely related and a subject that I began learning about in first grade - my early understanding of that subject really helped me understand why many different aspects of life are the way they are) when they are old enough to be able to get a basic understanding of the subject. (For me, as with Julia Sweeney's daughter, when I began learning about sex [at age 8, mainly just from hearing tidbits here and there about humans and animals, watching Marty Stouffer's "Wild America," and my own observations about how boys and girls differ as my impression was that adults weren't willing to be all honest about the subject; I'm shy so I never asked though] my first thought was simply that sexual intercourse was gross as I wasn't given any information about the female reproductive system. I was quite relieved a few years later when I learned [from the movie "Kindergarten Cop"] that women have an orifice which is dedicated for that purpose. [I've never held any views towards the vagina that are in any way negative... and I do wish that more women would not view themselves {or any part or themselves} in a negative light.])

GlowW... GlowWorm889

I cannot stop laughing over this video. XD I have not reached that point yet, but I agree with the video...answer only the questions asked, no elaboration. Unlike her, I don't think I'll be using Wikepedia and Youtube as props.

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