Don’t Lie to Your Kids Unless It's About the Easter Bunny

Easter BunnyParents, such hypocrites we are. We dole out punishment all the time for the fibs kids feed us (really Junior? The entire roll of toilet paper unfurled and landed in the tree outside accidentally?). But we lie to our kids on many occasions. Death. Sex. And the existence of mythical creatures like the Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny, and jolly ol’ Saint Nick.

Honestly, we ought to be ashamed of ourselves for tellin’ these kids boldfaced lies. But there’s something so adorable about egging on the innocence of a child who believes that a rabbit is capable of 1) putting items in a basket, 2) carrying it to their home, and 3) knowing all about their love for Justin Bieber, purple jelly beans, and Hello Kitty coloring books.

I’m so glad my daughter is old enough to know that Mommy may have bent the truth just a smidge for pure entertainment reasons. But I gotta tell ya: should I have any more babies, I’m not so sure I’d be as gung ho about frolicking in the land of make believe. That Bunny/Santa/Fairy thing is hard work.

I was at my worst when she lost teeth. First of all, I’m surprised the child still has a tooth left in her mouth because it seemed like every time I looked up, she was shoving a little plastic baggie in my face with pride and pointing to a spot where another molar or bicuspid had gone down in the line of duty. Which meant that I had to have dollars to put under her pillow. And since I almost never carry cash, I’d be scrambling and — sign me up for the Bad Mom of the Decade Award — I’d often forget to run to the ATM to get dough.

After putting her umpteenth tooth under her pillow and discovering the next morning that there was nothing but cold, hard air there instead of cash, The Girl huffed out in her PJs and made a declaration: “The tooth fairy is a fraud!,” she snorted. I launched into a campaign to clean up Miss Fairy’s reputation, pointing out a technicality that the tooth had actually fallen on the floor during the course of the night and that actually made it ineligible for a cash payout. Try again tonight, I soothed.

Dang It if I didn’t forget again. And that there kind of did it in for the faith in the Tooth Fairy. Poor kid.

Despite the hassles and challenges that go hand in hand with playing along, kids’ belief in imaginary characters is actually healthy for them. Or at least that’s what psychologists say. It aids their cognitive development, so all of that extra work isn’t just for your own personal warm and fuzzy feelings or the makings of good home video. Besides, in a generation bombarded with pressures to think and dress and behave and talk way older than their actual years, it’s nice to keep them innocent and none the wiser for as long as we can. So ho ho ho and hippity hop to it, moms. There are few reasons to lie, but this might just be one of them.

Did you believe in imaginary characters as a child? Did you pass that belief on to your children, too? 


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RanaA... RanaAurora

We do enough pretend play in our day to day lives that I'm not worried that they're "damaged" by not believing in fake holiday characters. :)

MrsNe... MrsNewman

Of course I passed it on, there is nothing wrong with having your child believe in something so magical.

Memph... MemphisSuzi

Yes, we do.  But sometimes I think its more for ME  than them as I love love love the magic kid-like feeling I get by carrying out these long standing traditions.  I am so excited when we do easter egg hunts and leave cookies for Santa and wake up Christmas morning to all the goodies.  There is just something so special about relishing in the "magic" of these moments. They will be grown up and  know "better"  in the blink of an eye.  Let them cherish these make-believe and magical moments.

ethan... ethans_momma06

Well now, there is a BIG difference between an imaginary friend and indocrinating your child since birth (practically) into the mass supported fake character that they are TAUGHT is real.


I had an imaginary friend AND I grew up in a house which 'believed' in Santa and his crew.


MY family embraces imaginary friends and refrains from 'believing' in things like 'The Easter Bunny'.


Oh. The Horror.

Beths... Bethsunshine

My children have plenty of imagination and are not traumatized by not believing in the Easter Bunny or Santa.

momof... momof030404

unless you never ver ever lie to your children this argument is BS> I am sure as I am sitting here that from little to big you have told your child lies for your own needs and to make your life easier. I choose to let my children have a little magic and make believe. There will come a time with the harsh realities of life can no longer be held away. I REMEMBER when I found out there was no santa and you know WHAT...Christmas lostit' s magic and wonder and didnt become FUN and magical again until I had children of my own! I am SOOO grateful for my mama for those nights of eager anticipation the dreams of santa eating cookies I made and the toothfairy sneaking in and taking my tooth to build her magnificent towers!! I TREASURE those memories....but then i wasnt raised a selfish shit who was pissed off over not knowing who gimmie gimmie gimmied.......

JAFE JAFE

Lie away! You seriously can't tell me having "tooth fairy" money is hard work! So I supposed doing "work" like baking cupcakes for a school party is really too much! Come on people. One day you'll be old and alone and you'll wish you could hide Easter eggs and leave out carrots for Rudolph with your little ones. Childhood is so short that most of the time life sucks so please tell me what's wrong with this for a few short years?

karis... karischub

Yes, I believed in imaginary characters and yes, I will be continuing these traditions with my child. Eventually, she'll get old enough to know who really pays for her gifts. Then I'll expect good manners and nice "thank you mommy and daddy's." Until then, I'll enjoy every magical morning.... I'm not lying to her, I'm fostering her imagination and her sense of the world as a wonderful and generous place. She has years to learn the true nature of our society.

Leele... Leelee1008

Yes the easter bunny is alive and kickin in our house, as is santa and the tooth fairy

Peajewel Peajewel

Yes, I believed when I was a child and so did/do my kids.  I turned out okay and so did my son and so will my daughter. 

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