Who Cares What an 11-Year Old Gang Rape Victim Was Wearing?

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trailer mobile homeThis story is one to turn your stomach and fear for the souls of our youth to be sure. Eighteen young men in Texas -- ranging from middle schoolers to a 27-year-old -- are standing trial for the gang rape of an 11-year-old girl. At least one cell phone video of the assault fell into the hands of an elementary school student, who alerted a teacher.

To make matters even more gruesome, after this gang of men and boys continually raped a middle schooler and filmed it, here's what the residents are talking about: the way the girl dressed, how much makeup she wore, and the fact that she hung out with teen boys at the playground. Oh, and of course, they want to know where her mother was? Really? That's what we want to know. Disgusting ...

Why are we still as a society so much more concerned with how a young girl dresses than the fact that some of our boys are rapists?

One of the 19-year-old subjects asked the victim if she wanted to "ride around" and brought her to another 19-year-old's house, which had an abandoned mobile home on the property. The sexual assaults by the 18 boys and men, while maybe still others took photos and videos, took place in the house and later continued in the mobile home.

Five of the male suspects are students at Cleveland High School, including two members of the basketball team. Another suspect is the 21-year-old son of a school board member. A few of the others have criminal records, including selling drugs, robbery, and, in one case, manslaughter.

Here are my questions about them and their parents:

  • Where were the parents of these under-aged suspects?
  • Why are they allowed to hang out with older men, some with criminal records?
  • Why, instead of feeling worried or at least cautious about a girl who acts and dresses much older than she looks, do these boys choose to see her as prey, a person without feelings, an easy target?
  • What kind of boy or man threatens and rapes an 11-year-old child?
  • What kind of boy or man watches or takes videos and photos while others threaten and rape an 11-year-old child?
  • What kind of derelict, soulless boys are we raising?

It is high time we reversed our way of societal thinking and speaking about rapists and their victims. The solution to rape is NOT about getting girls to dress less provocatively. It is in deeming it intolerable and unacceptable for boys to get away with thinking their sexual urges can somehow be released "against their will" in the presence of any girl or woman, sexually forward or not. That is complete bullsh!t.

And how do we begin to teach this? By never again pointing to what a child or woman must have been wearing to provoke several young men to rape her one after another. If you hear a story like this and these are the types of questions you are asking, then you are asking the WRONG question. You are telling boys they had some sort of justification to rape, and you are part of the problem.

 

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starr... starrsitter

"If you hear a story like this and these are the types of questions you are asking, then you are asking the WRONG question. You are telling boys they had some sort of justification to rape, and you are part of the problem."


This.  Exactly this.

SashaBW SashaBW

Bravo! This is SO wrong. Could not have said it better myself.

Liz Davis

As a college student and employee of the campus Women's Center, I could not agree more. I find my biggest challege at work is overcoming the "blame the victim" mentality which is so entrenched in our culture. It does not matter if a girl/woman is walking around NAKED with a "rape me" sign on her back; the choice to commit a crime and violate someone's body is still being made and that person deserves to be punished. Does seeing an idle car with keys in the ignition give anyone the right to steal it? No. And the only person who would is a criminal and should go to jail. You would not ridicule and doubt the morality of the car owner, but that is what is happening to these already traumatized victims who need our support, not our criticism.

For more accurate information on rape/sexual assault and also how to speak to and educate your sons/brothers on this issue, please visit the following Women's Center homepage:

www.k-state.edu/womenscenter

ready... readyforbaby3

oh my goodness....that poor baby...i am speechless

Beths... Bethsunshine

This makes me nauseated!!

Gigan... GigantaursMommy

I wish, and I'm being completely honest here, that someone slits the throat of every one of these "men" that did this to that poor little girl. They tortured her for hours and they deserve to die IMO.

Stacie Rose

This turns my stomach but has been the catalyst for a conversation with my sons. I have never really discussed this subject matter, but it is imperative that boys know that a girl/woman's appearacne is not justification for violence.

LoriA... LoriAnn87

my heart goes out to the girl and her family as for those boys i hope they rot in hell. I don't care who the girl was dressing no women should ever be rape and when a women say no they mean no.

lovin... loving_my_hero

A previous commenter stated "apperance is not justification for violence" and that is exactly what rape is. Rape is not a crime of sexuality or a crime of sensual nature; rape is truly a violent act and what the victim is wearing has absolutely NOTHING to do with it. You are right, the people who blame the victim are contributing to this problem.

Phils... PhilsBabyMama

It doesn't matter what a girl or woman is wearing, she always has the right to say "No."   :( 

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