29-Year-Old Grandmother Had It Coming

Rather teaching about using birth control,  teach about waiting until they are adults in a mature relationship ready to make that life long commitment.  Also, know where your 14 yr olds are spending their time and with whom.  Also, teach them from an early age that they're special enough and important enough and matter enough to wait.   Then, they wont go looking for another little boy to show them.  I lost my mom and dad and brother and sister when I was just young, and I have the same feelings of how important family is, but not in the least bit excited for their family still, sorry.  It's wrong, not even the thought of six generations alive can make me think it's ever OK, for a child to be raising children.  It's wrong for the mom, the teen, and the baby who will suffer as a result.

Interesting piece. I like your point of view. 6 generations together is amazing and although she is young she will have an amazing support system. lets hope the new mom and grandma can right the ship for the next generation. She will get to experience now first hand all of the hardships her mother faced.

I was pregnant at 16 and made it clear my son would not grow up and have to struggle like I have and he at 23 is not strapped down with a child when he is not ready. He had a steady girlfriend for years and they had sex, no babies!!! I don't know what the 29 year old in this article did raising her child but I worked my butt off and gave up being a teenager so I could be a postive role model for my child. A lot of the kids seem to think it is a game and idolize horrible shows like 16 and Pregnant!

i once met a mother of 5 single mom strugling to survive it's not  easy she is  very young 30 and yes her 15 year old daughter just gave birth to her first  grand baby  i do believe it can be  avoided we need to talk to  our kids it's not  easy i have a 13 yr old andhoping  that all my talking  helps keep her on the  right  track  education  and  sucess.

No, i do not think this was inevitable exspecially in the age of many many birth control methods, the one thing that made it a reality was the mother not speaking candidly with her daughter, its obvious, because at 14 she's pregnant and had no clue as to what her daghter was doing or she allowed her the freedom without giving her the tools needed to protect herself from that of which her young body isn't even ready for., there's no such thing as a parent's statement i don't know what to do with or about him or her, the first answer is easy, since parenting dosen't come with instructions, you try., there are 7 of us in my family of siblings, and if one isn't checking up and giving advice shooting straight from the hip then another is, talk to freinds, just try.,

 

It's not always inevitable that a teen parent's child will have a child as a teen also. One of my amazing friend was born to her mom when her mother was 13. She certainly did not become a teen parent, in fact she was determined not to because her mother had talked to her over and over about how hard it was to raise her on her own at such a young age, she let her know that while she didn't regret her decision to keep her, and she was the most wonderful thing in her life, that it was the hardest thing she had ever done to provide for and raise her while she herself was still a teenager.

My friend, Ash, didn't have sex until she was a Senior in high school with her high school sweetheart of four years and was very conscientious  about protection and responsibility when she did. She is now 28  married, and a sucessful paralegal. I think they are trying for their first child now.  So it's not always a cycle that can't be broken.  It's about how well you communicate with your children. A lot of parents won't do anything but tell their kids "Don't do it." when they should be teaching them about protection, self worth, and knowing their own boundaries.

As a young grandmother, it wasn't inevitable. The article says nothing about whether or not the mom tried to educate her daughter. So, I personally can only say I did EVERYTHING to educate both of my twin daughters on the repercussions of premarital sex. My openness, frankness and yes, sometimes, preaching was met with eye rolls. One twin got pregnant at 16 and had a miscarriage before we could find an adoptive family. She got pregnant a year later and is now married to the daddy of her precious little boy. She finished a trade school and both work. Other twin, she is attending college and has already lived a year in Peru on a scholarship, and is currently doing an internship abroad and will be studying abroad in her senior year. So, two identical twins same experience and backgrounds, two different outcomes. What it comes down to is choice on the child's part. God knows, I felt like a horrible mother during my girls' teen years. As parents we can do only so much to raise them as fittingly as possible, but children aren't perfect either, and we still love them, even when they make the most avoidable mistakes. If we are not willing to accept that about our children, we have no business bringing them into the world in the first place. I am fortunate enough that both of them have come around to say the two things every parent wants to hear, "Thank you, Mom, for everything" and "I LOVE YOU, MOMMY".

My mother was a 15 yr old mother to me. She was tall, young , and beautiful and I got to see it. She made mistakes but she didn't party, didn't leave me with anyone, she worked hard , we had nice things and were clean in a good home . She found a way to put us all through college and was good to us. The second she even felt like I was going to have sex she dragged me to the doctor to make sure what happened to her didn't happen to me. I thank god that she was smart enough to NOT TRUST that I would make better decisions than her. Her and my dad have been together since they were 12. They never finished school and always had mediocre jobs but we had everything and she broke the cycle !

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