Stop Cheering Mom for Sleeping With Daughter's Friends

Sasha Brown-Worsham
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Being a teenage girl is bad enough without having a mother who sleeps with your friends. Sadly for one teenage girl in Chicago, she gets to suffer all the indignities of youth while also having this kind of crackpot for a mom.

Cathleen Miller, 40, plied her victims, all aged between 14 and 15, with alcohol and marijuana and then seduced them at her home in a Chicago suburb.

The mother of three was arrested last July after her daughter walked in on her mother having sex with one of her friends from high school. The boy's parents also reported after seeing an apology he posted on the daughter's Facebook wall.

This is a Jerry Springer show, no?

There isn't much to say about this situation that isn't obvious. It's disgusting. But when I mentioned the story to my husband, this is what he said:

"Where were these women when I was in school?"

He thought it was cool. He isn't the only one. Many men will publicly say it's disgusting, but in private think it sounds kind of cool. If it were our daughter, on the other hand, heaven help the man who tried this.

As the mother of both a son and a daughter, I think they're equally egregious. A 15-year-old boy is a hormonal mess and sure he may be dying to have sex and it might seem awesome, but he is still a child who needs to be protected. In 12.5 years I will have a 15-year-old son and I would be devastated if some woman -- a mother no less -- took advantage of him.

And that is exactly what she did. She is claiming there was domestic abuse with the husband from whom she is separated and that is probably the truth. But regardless of her personal situation, she is still a mother of three who has not only taken advantage of the boys, but also hurt her daughter.

It isn't cool and those boys need counseling, not a pat on the back. Boys and girls both need our protection from predators.

What do you think of this case?

 

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