Good Parents Let Their Sons Wear Dresses

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When it comes to heartwarming parenthood stories, the ones that touch me the most are always the ones in which parents truly accept their children for who they are. A shining example of this is Dyson -- a self-described "Princess Boy."

Dyson, now 5, wanted to wear tutus and dresses all the time. His mother, Cheryl Kilodavis, was concerned initially and tried to redirect his interest toward trucks and cars like other little boys. But little Dyson knew what he wanted and finally his mother came to accept it after Dyson's big brother Koby said, "Mom, why can't you just let him be happy?"

And with that question, a new acceptance was born. The entire family now accepts little Dyson as a "Princess Boy" and has even written a book, My Princess Boy, about accepting differences that came out in December. Can you imagine if all parents were like them? What a better world we might live in then.

In what is the most touching part of the video, Dyson's father describes his son as "just like any other kid who likes to climb trees, play checks. He just likes to do it in a dress. Big deal."

He's right. It isn't a big deal. But what is a big deal is the reaction to Dyson and to children like him. More and more parents are listening to their sons and allowing them to do more gender-bending activities, whether it's dressing like Daphne from Scooby Doo for Halloween or taking ballet classes with their sister. It isn't going to kill anyone or hurt anyone if a little boy likes to wear a pink dress or glittery wings. They are pretty! Why would he not want to try them out?

This idea that it would somehow change his sexuality is concerning, but even more concerning is the notion that it would matter if it did. I happen to have the most truck-obsessed, brute of a 2-year-old son, but if he ever showed any interest in his sister's dress-up clothes, I would be happy to let him explore. He may be a boy stereotype right now, but I'd like to believe that my son can actually be anything he wants. It makes me sad that he might ever be constrained by society's ideas of what a "boy" does and what a "girl" does.

It actually hurts all of us. How would my daughter feel if I dismissed my son's interest in frilly things or told him that fairy wings were only for girls? There is an implication of inferiority implicit in that dismissal. It's the same notion that says my daughter can't love Star Wars. Why? Why should we stifle children from becoming who they are because we are stuck in our ways, rigid and holding on to antiquated ideas about gender?

We should all take a page from Dyson's family. It seems the world would be filled with a lot less misery.

Would you let your son wear a dress?

 

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Mrs.D... Mrs.Dez78

Wow i made a post about this the other day when they were on channel 7 umm i dont mind him wearing the clothes as dress up but not outside in public

mommix4 mommix4

Both my sons liked to play dress up when they were younger and have their toenails painted. But I think this mother is wrong to put him on national tv wearing a red dress. Because if this is just a phase like it was with my boys how humiliating will it be when he's older? My 12yr old denies to this day that he ever did that and I can't imagine when her little boy is older that he will be thrilled with his tv appearance in a dress.

bills... billsfan1104

Taking a ballet class is totally different from letting your sons wear dresses and tutus in public. My nephew is all boy, but at times he played dress up with his sisters, but that is where it ended. My sister doesnt care what other people think, she is not letting her son dress up or wear make up, or anything like that. and I agree with her.

NYCBrit NYCBrit

What bothers me about this story isn't so much as the little boy wearing the dress -- big deal -- it's the fact that his mother published photos of him in a book wearing the dresses. He'll eventually (likely) grow out of this phase but that book is going to be around, well, forever. It's like parents taking embarrassing videos of their kids and posting them on YouTube...there's a chance that one day their peers are going to see that when they get older and tease the hell out of them for it. It's not a big deal that he wears dresses now, but let's not have it affect him years down the road.

Mrs.Salz Mrs.Salz

absolutely not... that is disgusting and perverted.

Dazzl... DazzlednSeattle

Are we allowed to say another commenter is a bigoted fuck? Probably not, I suppose...

nonmember avatar Anon

They used this child's actual likeness in mass media? This child is being PIMPED. Disgusting. ... I don't care who wears a dress, btw. But as others have said, think of the child's future. He may not want his classmates to have that documented when he's 9 or 13.

Elizabeth Whitson Flynn

The only one who can say whatis ok for this child is his parents. Whether you agree or disagree is really a non issue. There are children who dress as the other gender to just dress up. Then there are kids out there who are transgender and they dress the way the way they do to feel more comfortable and in sync with who they are. Before you judge and condemn, educate yourselves and accept that transgender people live among us and have every right to be who they are. Children who show transgender tendencies may not be going through a phase, and they need to be loved and accepted. Not ridiculed, Ms. Whoosey Doosey who said it was disgusting and perverted. This mom had the guts to bring this explosive issue out of the darkness. I am sure she thought about it long and hard before doing so.

kisse... kisses5050

 1975 a little girl wanted a real football uniform... more than anything...her parents bought her a Chicago bears uniform with tiny pads and helmet  she loved that thing...boy did she get raised eyebrows in the neighborhood...with her football uniforms and trucks and tool belts.... But she was loved and loved well and respected...and never exploited

Fallaya Fallaya

If I ever have a son, he won't be wearing dresses and tutus.  

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