Jada Pinkett Smith Gives Worst Parenting Advice Ever

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Willow SmithWhen I have kids, please remind me not to buy any parenting books that the Smith family may have published, because according to Jada Pinkett Smith, you shouldn't discipline your children ... you should create agreements. Oh right, easy for her to say. She's not the one who deals with the pre-teen temper tantrums -- the nanny is.

Boy, I feel bad for that nanny. Smith tells Style magazine:

We don’t have rules. We come up with agreements. Kids are little people, and we’re in life to guide them. Trying to rule someone is always an illusion, and it’s no different with children.

Actually, there is a big difference ...

Children need discipline, especially at that age. Responsibility and overall appropriate behavior don't just come to someone naturally. If you don't enforce rules, you wind up with a bunch of spoiled heathens running around (and seriously, Willow and Jayden are too friggin' adorable -- I really don't want to believe they are like that).

But sure, when you have an unlimited amount of money, you probably don't often have to say, No you can't have that bracelet. Because I said so and when you have a huge mansion, I'm sure you rarely have to scream, No running in the house!

The Smiths have always had an untraditional view of things (she and hubby Will have an open relationship), which isn't always a bad thing if that suits your household. But by not enforcing rules upon your children, that means they probably act like brats in public, and suddenly, your untraditional way of doing things is pissing off affecting others from the kids' tutor to the other customers in the store.

Every parent has the right to discipline their children the way they see fit. And hey, maybe negotiating with a 10-year-old works for her (if that's the case, she's one helluva mature 10-year-old). But I couldn't see that flying anywhere else other than Hollywood.

What do you think of Jada Pinkett's way of parenting?


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usmom3 usmom3

I think if it works for them who are you to say it is wrong! Would you like for me to critique your parenting? I bet the answer is NO! I don't do thinks like everyone else dose, that doesn't make me or them wrong it"s just different!

sweet... sweetheart1985

I agree with you. I think that creating "agreements" with your kids is the first step to creating diva children. In the real world, you don't make agreements with those you have issues with... these kids are going to be in for a rude awakening some day.

Ashley Castillo

Haha well if it works great.  But when I was growing up the "agreement" was you stop whatever your doing and I won't tell you to go get the belt.


disclaimer: I'm a well adjusted twentysomething with absolutely no hatred towards her Dad for spanking her.  

angev... angevil53

lmfao! yeah right, though in reality everything is an "agreement" in my household...you hit that kid, i spank you! you eat that, there's no desert! i have a legally binding contract with my 4yo to pick up his toys or else there will be hell to pay...of course i have to get judge joe brown to call it an "ingradious misjustice"!

Pishyah Pishyah

I don't think people are understanding what she's saying. 

wendy... wendy46121

I have never seen anything or heard anything about her kids "acting like brats in public"  As a matter of fact they seem very well behaved.  Maybe you just don't understand what it's like to treat kids like equals, rather than 2nd class citizens in your household.  She didn't say "there are no rules" she said "we have agreements" which means the kids help come up with the rules of the house.  Hmm what a concept. 

ivans... ivansmom07

You call it discipline, they call it agreements. Other than the awful song Willow has playing on the radio, I haven't heard of the kids being spoiled brats. Let's check in on them in, oh, 5 years and see how it's workin' for them.

Pishyah Pishyah

Or, maybe, she has rules that she knows she wants but she uses psychology and intelligence instead of physical force and punishments to get her kids to agree to them so that they can all find a middle ground? 

Pishyah Pishyah

The link that you provided even goes into details on how she handles it.  I love it!

Lilbe... Lilbeamercomin

<3 Jada Pinkett Smith!!!!! We don't have "rules" in my house either, and I don't have issues with my son being a brat. As a matter of fact, I am often told I must be doing something right as we have all but escaped the "terrible twos." My son is two, but "behaves" better than pretty much any child I have ever met. He's extremely polite, and though he will often ask why he has to do something, he doesn't ask as an argument. He simply likes to know why he is being asked to do something, and why he should do it.

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