The REAL Talk About the Birds and the Bees

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The way I see it, the birds and the bees conversation should happen in two phases: the intro phase which happens anywhere between 4 and 7 when a child starts asking those initial, "Where do babies come from?" questions, and the you-can't-run-from-this-conversation-anymore phase, when puberty is clearly in the house.


An anonymous mom asks, "Do you tell a 10 year old what a wet dream is? Her son actually asked her about it, and she couldn't find the words. A few mothers here sympathized with her, but others like myself feel that talking with children about their bodies and (when appropriate) sexual health is one of the most important things we as parents can do. "Yes, you need to tell him...if you can't do a face to face then find the info somewhere and give it to him to read..then be willing to have a chat after for any questions he might have," says AttriceDiva.

Let's face it, for a kid going through puberty, any information not garnered at home will be picked up somewhere else.That should be scarier than the talk itself!

Lucky for our generation of mommys, there is lots of help out there for talking to children about puberty. (Ideally, the conversation would be face-to-face, because if you project shame to your child, that certainly won't be lost on him.) If talking directly is just too tough for you, there are lots of great sites to help you through it--places you and your child can get good, safe, accurate information. is my is favorite on the matter because they have a wonderful channel just for parents, one for kids and one for teens too. Good Luck!

Have you had "the talk" with your tween? How'd it go?

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