Is Your School Throwing a Boo Hoo Party?

Big Kid 18

cryingMy aunt called me last week to count down the days until my "boo hoo party."

My what?

I thought she was being deprecating about my daughter's first day of kindergarten.

She was being serious.

It seems her kids' school throws an official party for parents on the first day of school.

The parents drop the kids off at school and head into the cafeteria to cry. It's usually the moms and dads of the kindergartners who show up, but helicopter-worthy parents of any age group are invited to pop their drippy red nose in the door.

Excuse me for wondering if they aren't a tad bit too indulgent to these parents.

My friends and I joked that we should follow the bus to school on the first day ... then set up in the parking lot with a bottle of wine. Whether it was to drown our sorrows or celebrate our freedom, we couldn't quite decide.

Note the word "joked."

We also debated the very likely expectation that we will cry mixed with the yen for a bit of freedom. These are our babies.

For me, it's my ONLY baby. Excuse my ramblings this week. I'm going to be ping ponging back and forth with my emotions worse than PMS week.

But I am not going to spend a morning in a pity party with the rest of the parents. We're dropping her off, and then my husband and I will wipe our tears and go to work. Like adults.

We'll go make money to feed our kid, and we won't let her see us crying on what she currently thinks is going to be the very coolest day of her life. Thinking she might find her parents sobbing in the cafeteria and start freaking is the last way I want her to start off a 13-year adventure.

I've never been through the first day of kindergarten. I may be kidding myself about my strength completely.

But I'll skip the party. I've got work to do.

Does your school throw a boo hoo party?

 

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nonmember avatar Slowdad

This is helicopter parenting jumping the shark. Jumping the shark while wearing a leather jacket.

I can't imagine the world view you'd have to have in order to think that having some kind of support group upon dropping your kids off to school was normal.

Done right, kids love school. And you can be sure as heck that I enjoy dropping them off, just as much as I enjoy picking them up and hearing about what they learned.

Signy Roberts

This is to CONNECT with other parents -- LIVE & in-person & w/o kids underfoot. The title is more cute than literal -- the concept is to be SOCIAL with our childrens' friends' parents. The point is to take a few minutes 1st day of school & CONNECT - we are neighbors after all. I'm all for Free-Range kids and anti-copter parenting but good grief -- to think this is a serious support group >> that is totally missing this important social point.

MomIWant MomIWant

I think this might be a little over done.  I had personal boo hoo parties every fall from K-6, then they became YA-HOO parties! LOL

frysh... fryshannon34

No but i wish they would that would be awesome

Peajewel Peajewel

I don't think so but I am a choke the tears down and head to work kind of gal any way so I am sure I would not be attending. 

Radarma Radarma

This is to CONNECT with other parents -- LIVE & in-person & w/o kids underfoot. The title is more cute than literal -- the concept is to be SOCIAL with our childrens' friends' parents. The point is to take a few minutes 1st day of school & CONNECT - we are neighbors after all. I'm all for Free-Range kids and anti-copter parenting but good grief -- to think this is a serious support group >> that is totally missing this important social point.


Facebook comment from Signy Roberts ,
Sep 7, 2010 at 10:35 AM ....

This is an interesting interpretation of the event. We (our schools) do not have a "boo hoo party"...we do have a "meet the principal and have some coffee" thing. If in fact these are truly "meet and greets", then I think it is a good thing, and a valuable thing. If it is truly a boo hoo party, I would think that place would be pay-dirt for a therapist.

sstepph sstepph

I dont think so. Not sure.... he's not in Kindergarden yet!

2taur... 2taurusmom

My daughter's school did a boo-hoo breakfast.  Although I didn't attend, my daughter has been going to some form of school setting since she was 6 months old, I thought it was a nice concept for the parents who have a hard time watching their "baby" take the first steps on this long academic journey.  It was only for a half-hour, so it was more than enough time for the working parents to go and participate.

KTMOM KTMOM

That is pretty funny.  I could see it being a good thing to connect with and meet other parents,  but I would not be crying....

Carey... Carey2006

I don't think they do but if they did I would be there with my box of tissues!!!!!!

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